The Examined Thoughts!

What does it mean to make a difference in society?

2011-03-04T00:35:00.000-08:00

I always here most of the time people complain that they want to contribute something to society but don't know how to get started.so i decided it to blog it today for all of them who want to make a difference:)

Differences can be big or small, though.I am satisfied with what i do to society as i have my part in making the world a better place to live.

Your decision to make a difference to society is a noble one, for that really constitutes one of the true meanings of living.

To make a difference to society,

A. Choose your area.
B. Choose the impact level.
C. Decide how to achieve such an impact.

After all, small differences add up to big ones. Every one of us has a choice to make—whether we would like to make big differences or small ones. Not all of us need to win a Nobel Prize to make a contribution. Any positive act you have done in this life constitutes a contribution to society.

The question is where do we start and how do we do it? Once you have answers to these questions you are good to go.otherwise you can contact me :)

And i bet from my 7 years of experience till date with various NGO's,working to make a difference in life's of various people will be the best time that you will always cherish.The love you get back and the smiles you see on the faces of underprivileged,the reason being U :)

Be the reason for spreading happiness along your away...life is a Present.

-Jyotsna Bobba,
PR & Resource Representative Central Office,
Pankhudi Foundation.
www.pankhudifoundation.org

experience the Experience :)

2011-02-01T01:12:00.000-08:00

The purpose of our lives is to be happy.I always feel that I am one lucky child of god who always got the best of things.It doesn't mean that i haven't experienced any oods in life and my journey was smooth till date.I accepted what ever came in with a smile on my face and i am happy at the end of it.It made a lot of positive influence on me.

I always believe that god has better plans for me,just staying calm and cool is the only thing that i should do !!

Its up to you to make or break your day.It is what you choose makes a difference in yours and others lives as well:)

Experience is a beautiful thing where it teaches lessons so be ready to learn from them in order to identity a mistake when you make it again.

So experience the Experience :)

Keep smiling and spread smiles along your way. :)

Lesson from the Russians !!

2010-11-08T21:52:00.000-08:00

As i always do while i was reading a book today i saw an interesting peace for us to learn.This advice is very much as how i think but totally in a contrast way that happened in Russia.I always wanted weddings to be simple but many say that it is a great event in everyone's life so wanted to be grand.No contradictions anyways everyone will have their own opinion.

But to be honest i liked this peace because it goes in the same lines as i think.

The amount of money spent sometimes constitutes the entire life's savings of a person.At times people take such huge lones for this celebration that they end up repaying them throughout their life.

People like us are worried about the finest jewelery and saris.

Russia in contradiction ,wedding takes place normally on Saturdays and Sundays.Irrespective of season after signing the register married couple must visit the important national monuments near by.Every boy in the country has to serve in the military for couple of years at least.Regardless of his position he must wear service uniform for the wedding :)

This is mark of gratitude.The newly married couple has to remember they are living in a peaceful,independent Russia because of their ancestor's sacrifices.

But We are busy shopping for saris,buying jewelery and preparing elaborate menus :)
I wished we could learn a lesson from the Russians.

I don't really suggest to do like what Russians do but at least instead of pouring money for such kind of events these can be spent for lighting someones lives which remains even more memorable in your life.Just my thought !! Not asking everyone to do :)

Keep Thinking,
Jo

It is always the hater who gets hurt more :)

2010-10-30T07:34:00.001-07:00

I never got a thought to write about this topic before but today here it is i have learnt something from it.This to to people who doesn't knew about this before :)

Every negative emotion secretes acid in your body,and acid destroys the vessel,which contains it.

Negative emotions like anger,frustration and disappointment are visiting emotions.The consolation being,they rise in you when an event happens and then they die down once you are distracted into the other events.

Hatred is a progressive negative emotion.It gains depth with the passage of time.The more you process your hurt the more you deepen your hatred.

Hatred takes you away from the real U.You cease to feel,think and act as you.The 'hated' now becomes the hero of your mind and heart,literally remote controlling how you feel,think and act. :)

Forgiveness is not liberating the other from u,but liberating yourself from other.

Nothing and nobody deserves a disturbing presence within you.

Let go the disturbance and let in peace" .

Everyman will face the consequences of his own doing.You don't make yourself wrong to prove that the other is wrong.

Give up your need to prove that the other is wrong.It still changes nothing about your life.

Something happened to teach you something :)

Learn the lessons and just move on...

Keep Smiling
Jo

What we do in our leisure hours determines what we are :)

2010-09-22T03:26:00.000-07:00

"What we do during our working hours determines what we have;
What we do in our leisure hours determines what we are ."

Life is not all about what you have,it is all about how you make it for your dreams to come True.

Everyone has a feel good factor,think before you do it.Its your choice and not a chance.So choose how you want to be.Be in the circle of positive influences that makes your life and day simpler,easier and worthwhile :)

Your thoughts makes you or breaks you at the end of the day.
Everyday is fresh waiting for you,you can learn something out of it.

Instead thinking i am supposed to be,be what you want to be irrespective of what others feel about it!!But be careful in what ever you do such that it will not harm others.
After all this is a world of people with different opinions,you have the right to go ahead with yours :)

I believe when i do good,I feelgood!!
When i do bad,i feel bad!!

This is what i am,i live my life :)

Keep Smiling,
Jo

Adopt a child and give them a new Life :)

2010-09-22T02:08:00.000-07:00

Once upon a time there was an idea that struck my mind.I thought how it will be if i adopt a child?Isn't it nice and a good feeling when you are giving a life to a child's dream.

Initially I don't know how to proceed,i don't know much about the acts, no idea how to and where to start about it.No idea of my initial step.But now as when i started reading about Hindu Adoptions And Maintenance Act, 1956 aka HAMA,i felt that the procedure was and is a hurdle for the people to adopt one.

So many restrictions and so many rules to follow.So many documents to submit.Taking the child to court every year till five years.Yes at the end of it security of the child is important but with the current act i feel people coming forward will be very few crossing all these.

These are quite a few to know more about it you can go through the act.

But at the end of the day i request people to think about Adopting a child and giving them a new life they dream off.That's the best thing you can do in your life time :)

-Jo

Sun Microsystems many take aways especially for a life time!!

2010-08-15T23:36:00.000-07:00

Life at Sun Microsystems !!

A mentor,who wont be lucky if you get a mentor to guide you for what you will be when you start of with nothing.I am the most lucky gal to have one.My friends,people from varied cultures and cities still with a common religion which is friendship.I got friends for a life time irrespective of ages.Biswa as i call him is elder to me by 15 years,he always made me think before i utter or pen down.Thanks for guiding me :)

I organized a fashion show which became a big success and which brought me from a back stage enthusiast to front stage.I was shocked people shouting and when the MC announced My and Saurabh's name.My manager was in a shock :) i was even more shocked,i realized it after a minute that people are calling us.I thoroughly enjoyed my show and the response sitting in the audience :)I can never forget that day,one of my dream come true.All the creativity in me moulded and shaped as a single show that too accepted by everyone.Awesome memories.

A wonderful team i had ,always helpful in everyway both personal and professional as i used to stay alone in Bangalore.

A wonderful friend Naveen who always supported me and took care of me so well more than his sister.

While i was at Sun i am a part of my Band and gave performances.We used to organize all the shows and had an amazing group of friends and its fun remembering all those again.Unforgettable and always remembered.

Staying away from home taught me how life will be.Both good,bad and better :)

Tag line used to suit what we are doing Fun while working @ Sun.The most memorable thing and a big achievement in my life time is being at Sun and being an employee of Sun Microsystems :)

Say NO to Paper and Plastic Bags!!

2010-08-12T02:35:00.000-07:00

When i read an article about Paper or plastic?

I immediately said Paper bag but i am surprised and awestruck when i got to know these facts .
It states Neither of them are roughly equal in pros and cons. While convenient addictions, they both gobble up natural resources and cause significant pollution. It takes more than four times as much energy to manufacture a paper bag as it does to manufacture a plastic bag.

And the worst part is it takes 91% less energy to recycle a pound of plastic than it
takes to recycle a pound of paper. But recycling rates of either type of disposable bag are extremely low, with only 10 to 15% of paper bags and 1 to 3% of plastic bags being recycled, according to the Wall Street Journal.

Paper sacks generate 70% more air and 50 times more water pollutants than plastic bags.It takes 11 times as much energy to recycle a pound of paper as to recycle a pound of plastic. And plastic bags require 40 percent to 70 percent less energy to recycle than paper bags.

Its better using a Cloth Bag instead of having debates whether to use a Plastic or a paper bag :)

To limit the debate between paper and plastic is a false choice. In 2008, China, the largest plastic-bag consumer, started banning stores from offering plastic bags for free. The goal has been to encourage shoppers to return to the tradition of using their own cloth bags for shopping.

You know i read that,To produce each week's Sunday newspapers, 500,000 trees must be cut down.
Recycling a single run of the Sunday New York Times would save 75,000 trees.
If all our newspaper was recycled, we could save about 250,000,000 trees each year!

And when it comes to plastic Americans use 2,500,000 plastic bottles every hour! Most of them are thrown away!
Plastic bags and other plastic garbage thrown into the ocean kill as many as 1,000,000 sea creatures every year!

Use Cloth bags and save Environment which in turn saves Us. :)

True friend is a Blessing :)

2010-08-01T00:14:00.001-07:00

I want to wish you all a very happy Friendship Day.Thanks for being a part of my life.You all touched my life in some or the other way and i learnt something from you all:)

Friend as a word has no meaning it is a wonderful feeling and a fabulous bond between people.As long as u have a true friend beside,you are one of the luckiest person on earth.

Only one thing in the world which expects nothing except your smile on your face is your friendship.It expects nothing in return.

One of the finest line that i believe is to “To Have a Friend, Be One”.

Don't judge them.Accept them as they are and because no one is perfect and don't expect them to change for yourself.If they are going in a wrong track its your responsibility to take them in right direction.

There is no gender limit for friendship.Every one is unique.If you do not have egos you will never have issues :)

Small misunderstandings sometimes causes a break off .see to it that the other side also understand and give a chance to your friend because don't forget that they are the one who stood beside you when you want them the most.

There is no language or religion to friendship,its itself is a language that speaks about a friend.

"True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils.

Strive to have friends, for life without friends is like life on a desert island….to find one real friend in a lifetime is good fortune; to keep them is a blessing."

Keep Smiling :)
-Jo

This moment is called the Present :)

2010-07-29T23:59:00.000-07:00

I am Jo :) Surprised introducing myself again ya i know ..but the situation :) Good to be back !! Every time i want to write a post i make a delay,the delay used to be so that i end up forgetting what i want to communicate.Previously i used to like writing them now i delay writing them since i am not getting time...then i questioned myself am i so busy and if so what am i doing ? I have no answer.

I then started thinking what i am getting and what am i loosing,i stopped enjoying doing things what i like the most.It applies to everything work,Personal,professional everything that i can think of.

Am i the one i used to be?
Without a pause my answer is no!!
I stopped writing,i stopped working for the under privileged,i stopped doing what i want to do.

Then i thought let me live the life i wanted to be.

The past is history ,the future is a mystery and this moment is a gift.That is why this moment is called the "Present".

If you embrace the present and become one with it,and merge with it,you will experience a fire,a glow,a sparkle of ecstasy throbbing in every living sentient being.

In this joyful,simple freedom,you will know without any doubt in your heart that what you want is available to you when ever you want it,because your want will be from the level of happiness,not from the level of anxiety.You do not need to justify anyone except yourself.

Take responsibility and Dont blame anyone or anything for your situation,including yourself.Remember all problems contain an hidden opportunity.

Problem is never a problem ,its just the situation that creates a problem and you can deal with it :)

In the same post i want to share an interesting conversation with my friend.We used to work at sun, he is very senior to me at age but a very good supporter and a friend of mine.He always follows all my status messages and we have discussions onn that yesterday he has an amazing analysis.

This is my version :

Give thousand chances to your enemy to become your friend, But don ' t give a single chance to your friend to become your enemy and Dont worry about the people in your past, There's a Reason .......They Didn't Make It To Your Future :)

He said:

should then India give thousand chances to Pakistan? it gave just 100 till now

If a friend becomes an enemy, he was never a "true" friend from the start only, right? In that case, he was putting a wrong garb of friendship and it is better if he officially becomes an "enemy" as he can be easily identified now. a True friend can never ever turn to an enemy.

How true it is :)

Have a fun filled weekend!!

The Feeling of Belonging......

2010-02-16T22:28:00.000-08:00

We always wanted to do something to the children of the Orphanage Dwarakamayi, that Sanhita Maitri is associated with, which would make them that we belong to them. We wanted to show them that we are not just any other donor just giving money. This Jan 31st was one of our friend's birthday, so we got an idea which would make the children happy. We celebrated his birthday there.

It was indeed a very good experience for our friend as he was wished by so many little and cute kids with their heartful greetings :) It was a good and memorable experience for him and the children too.

This is how we rang the New Year bells....

2010-02-11T08:22:00.000-08:00

Ah! It is that time of the year again. The magic time when most of us have been close to exhaustion from all the situations we have been through during the old year and we are ready to begin afresh. Blessed is he who invented the concept of the New Year for he has given us hope just when we thought we couldn’t take it any longer.

Even for those whose old year was a good one, the idea of a clean slate is short of a miracle.

So here we are at the end of December. The first of January approaching fast and furious and we begin to think about all the great things that we would like to be, do, or have for the next 12

So right the start of the year,and the one we always look forward for is for the Celebrations too.Definition of it varies from person to person but the output is still the same which is joy and happiness J

On the New year day Jan 1st i vistied Krushi Homes as usual greeted kids and spent some time with them.
And on second day i celebrated with my friends of Sanhita Maitri:)

We Sanhita Maitri celebrated and welcomed our new Year with the kids of “Dwarakamayee Seva Samithi “.Smiles on the faces of these kids is a gift back to us for the long year and also for a start of a great year.

We distributed new clothes to this kids while we had celebrations with Cake,Sweets,Chocolates and what not.Overwhelmed with everything.

Hope this year brings joy and Happiness to everyone.

My experience at Fun and Learn with Peers an informative one!!

2009-12-03T02:46:00.001-08:00

I participated in fun and learn with peers organized by our education department at CA.First of all i need to thank them for coming up with a wonderful theme :)

Initially i thought it was like a tech talk as usual but the total impression and what we did was entirely different when i was at the field.

I had few take aways which i want to share with all of you.The trainer demonstrated and made us realize using a simple game that we played.

The game is.We are a group of 15 people.Everyone should pass the ball to other except to the person standing towards his/her left or right.Sounded interesting.
Now once you confirm how the ball passes he freezes the loop.So now the ball should pass through the same people and reach the first person who started it.

We started of the game.It took 19 seconds for the first attempt.He told us the record time that we need to break is 1 sec and some one did it.I internally thought he was just kidding and it is impossible.

Then what we did is we came closer and everyone raised our hand once the ball is received. did a dry run before calling him,made sure it was reducing time and finally gave it a try asking him to record the time.Now the time it took for us is 9 sec.Amazing nearly 50% of the time reduction.

Now another strategy ,other attempt,we gave numbers as how the ball got passed arranged our self alternatively and placed the ball on a table and touched the ball shouting our numbers as quick as possible,now the time reduced to 5.56 sec.

Next attempt we formed a circle sequentially(which i suggested),then tried it again we came to 5.49 sec.

Next attempt ,same strategy as above but we hook a pen to the ball(since first person should not touch the ball when it passes to others)and now just a single finger of all of ours on the table formed as a circle sequentially.The first person just catches the tip of the pen and rolled through all our fingers.
Guess whats the time it took,we are almost near its 1.03 sec.

We made him to do it a couple of times so that he will come up to the speed while rolling the ball on our fingers.Now we called the trainer to check the time.

WOW...we did it ,its exactly 1 sec.

I thought what i thought impossible is made possible by all of us in fraction of minutes.

Then he started explaining that this is how we need to go while in a Team:

Storm ,Norm and perform
Storm is for brainstorming,think ideas find out ways to implement it.
Norms is to Follow the procedures and rules that you brain stormed
so if these both are in right mixture Performance comes with it.

And that is what we exactly did and saw the results and learnt practically with a simple game.

My Diwali Celebrations at Krushi Homes

2009-10-18T09:36:00.000-07:00

Its been always my pleasure to celebrate my Diwali with the kids at Krushi Homes an orphanage for run away and semi orphan kids.They always await us and we always had a warm welcome from the kids.

Like every year i am all set and very exited to celebrate my Diwali as i missed out last year and its been an year that i met all those cuties out there.

But for them this year it was a surprise as we didn't inform about our visit and its like a sudden surprise seeing us.Wishes from their heart and their self less love always made me feel the most luckiest person on earth.I become a kid with those kids out there.:)This time both pankhudi and colors swathi's family were at Krushi so the kids are very excited in celebrating with us .All the smiling faces that i can never forget :)

I interacted with all the kids and played some games and had the tastiest lunch with the kids that anyone will ever get:)

All over i had an awesome Diwali :)

Live as if your were to die tomorrow ..

2009-10-03T23:27:00.000-07:00

When i thought a bit about it,i immediately recollected the phrase that i always tell my friends when they question me what you want to be in Life.I always used to answer that i want to Live in such a way that the world should cry while i rejoice when i die.It sounded interesting when i read similar thoughts written down by an author in his book who shares with his child.I laughed at my self.

For a minute i asked my self who will cry when i die?How many lives did i touch while i walked on this planet?hmmm...the list of questions goes on...

I always write in my posts saying "Be the change you want to see"and once you do,your life will change.But myself doesn't have an answer while i question this to the world !!

For me if i make even one person smile by helping him/her i am quite satisfied with my purpose of living.

The things that are easy to do and appreciate are also the things that are easy not to do.I truly thank and feel happy for all the people who told that i am their inspiration from my activities i do and that's a positive act or change in their lives as well as in the underprivileged kids.There are small acts done with great Love.Without rich heart,wealth is an ugly beggar.

So what i learnt in my live is serve selflessly.and hurtful world unleashed in a single minute of anger led to many a broken friendship.Forgiveness is the greatest act of personal courage.For all of you out there if directly or otherwise forgive me for the same if i did hurt one.

Everyone who enters your life has a lesson to teach and a story to tell:)
Either good or bad depends on the way you take it and what you learn from it:)
I thank everyone who came across in my journey and touched my life in some or the other way:)

As some one said I realized we see the world not as it is but as we are :)

I have lived fully :)

As long as i live,it is my privilege to do for it what ever i can :)

This would me my last post if "Live as if your were to die tomorrow" .. :)

God Save us from these Sufferings!!

2009-09-11T23:59:00.000-07:00

Recently i experienced something i would never dream of..i am travelling back from my office after a little bit of discussion with my colleagues and finally decided to go by a local train at 6.25pm .I started from the station and suddenly in a few minutes a 21 year old girl fell down and started behaving in a weird way ,she is unconscious and even couldn't recognize her sister for a while.Initially i started rubbing her legs and hands and consoling her sister not to panic.

Dindn't understand what to do.Some people out in the train asked to get down at next station but none of us know any hospitals near by and as the time passing by the condition is becoming serious ,suddenly 108 came to my mind and called them to immediately come to the next station.I along with her sister got down taking her.She was ok for few minutes but again started shouting and behaving weirdly.

Mean while the ambulance came to the other side of the platform.I took help of a guy in the station standing to carry her and asked him to come along.we crossed the track and he carried her into the ambulance and we started going to the nearest hospital.Doctors said not to worry because we took her at the right time.they put on oxygen and injections and did some first aid.I saw the suffering of a Life and understood what life s and many questions revolved my mind.Why are these bonding's.Which are really painful .I myself couldn't see her in that state.We reached the hospital and after a while her relatives came in by 10 pm.

I myself being sick came back home.Next day i waited for her call.I was upset not hearing any news assuming so many things.Assumptions always showed me hell :)The next day her sister gave a Thank u call saying they shifted her to four hospitals for diagnosis and to treat her.The whole reason is the blockage of blood in her brain :(

God save us from all these sufferings.and thanks for introducing 108.It saved a Life.

As some of you asked about her she is shifted from ICU after 2 days and she is doing okay now :)

This post is not at all for appreciation and I am not talking about what i did...this post is to make people understand that you never know what happens in Life...I saw passengers in the train were just thinking about self and didn't come forward to help her...I just want to let people think about it.You do good...and i bet god saves you too!!After all we are humans!!

How much you can understand :)

2009-07-31T02:57:00.000-07:00

When i read this phrase for a second i thought how true it is...

A beautiful relationship does not depend upon how good we understand someone but on how well we avoid misunderstandings :)

This is the key for all of our happy lives too.More than understanding a persons tastes and thoughts,or what you dont like in him/her it is absolutely necessary to understand what one person really is and always take things in rite sense:)

Dont assume..start understanding..

So from now when you meet some one understand and dont "miss understanding" :)

and this is self explanatory which is true but not that easy :)

Missing someone gets easier every day. Because, even though it is one day further from the last time you saw each other, it is one day closer to the next time you will:)

Happy Fathers Day!!

2009-06-21T01:18:00.000-07:00

For All Fathers here's wishing you a very Happy Fathers Day!!

The calm of a quiet sea,The generous soul of nature.
He is one of my very best friend who always has a listening ear
He is one of the masterpiece.

His unexpressable love and can be seen onlyin his eyes
He always knows what is on my mind even before i speak out
He's someone who listens,supports, and defends.

He is very patient and helpful when things go wrong
In all that i do,he plays a part.
Thank you, Dad...
for listening and caring,for giving and sharing,
but, especially, for just being you!

The anger, coming fast and building slow,
Of being helpless to control someone.
You always want me to grow up right,
I'm sorry for the anger in the air;
Though we fight, my love is always there.

You mean so many things and everything to me.
You have an understanding heart,
A source of strength and support
With encouragement and forgiveness

I am successful today,but the one reason behind it is the gift i have:Dad and Mom.

-Jo

For every story you have something to take away :)

2009-05-08T02:44:00.000-07:00

Its an interesting and a stressful week for me...when we are loaded with lots of work
we never get time do anything other than to complete our targets.

At this point of time some small stories or funny one liners makes me relaxed.
Here i am sharing one of those i like :)

For every story you have something to take away.If you are on same lines as me then check this out:)

Once, a dog lost his way deep into the jungle.
He almost fainted to see a lion coming straight to him at a very near distant.
"I will be dead today" , thought he.There were some bones lying over there.
He turned his back towards lion and started pretending as if he is eating those
bones.When lion was very close to him he cried out loudly "Wow, what a fun eating a lion, by chance if I can get another one,it will be a treat ".

Lion thought "What a dangerous dog!!!!! He kills lions and eats it. Let me
run away from here and save my life ".

Now, there was a Monkey hiding on the tree there watching the entire show.He thought "It's a good chance to tell the truth to the lion. Lion will become my friend and I will not have to run saving my life from him ".

He just ran away to inform the entire episode to Lion.The dog had seen him going and quickly understood the ploy.Both lion and monkey were coming back to the dog and the lion was furious.When lion was very close to him he again cried out loudly " It has been half an hour and yet that stupid monkey can't fetch another lion??!!!!"

Morale: "It is by presence of mind in untried emergencies that the native metal of man is tested."

We are not rewarded for having a brain,But for using it... How true is it :)

The 40th anniversary of RFC :)

2009-04-09T01:39:00.000-07:00

YESTERDAY is an important date in the history of the Internet: the 40th anniversary of what is known as the Request for Comments. Outside the technical community, not many people know about the R.F.C.’s, but these humble documents shape the Internet’s inner workings and have played a significant role in its success.

When the R.F.C.’s were born, there wasn’t a World Wide Web. Even by the end of 1969, there was just a rudimentary network linking four computers at four research centers: the University of California, Los Angeles; the Stanford Research Institute; the University of California, Santa Barbara; and the University of Utah in Salt Lake City. The government financed the network and the hundred or fewer computer scientists who used it. It was such a small community that we all got to know one another.

Computers and Technology changed the way world is irrespective of whether it is a gud or a bad sign :)

Intelligence is not what you Think!!

2009-01-13T00:30:00.000-08:00

When i was reading through ,i found something worth sharing about intelligence.First,know well that intellectuality is not intelligence.Intelligence is the growth of inner consciousness.It has nothing to do with knowledge.

A Catholic,a protestant and a Jew were talking to a friend who said he had just been given six months to live.

"what would you do,"the man asked the catholic,"if your doctor gave you six months to live?"

"Ah!"said the catholic."I would give all my belongings to the church,take communion every Sunday,and say my hail Marys regularly."

"And you?"he asked the protestant.

"I would sell everything and go on a worlds cruise and have a great time!"

"And you?"he said to Jew.

"Me?" i would see another doctor."

That is Intelligence.

Do intelligent things..A very happy new yr :)

Live your own Life!!

2008-12-16T21:43:00.000-08:00

Today i was wondering and asking myself of what i thought my life should be..and in most of the cases for all of us...do we really like what we r doing or doing just for the sake of living??or just living for the sake of others?In a society of external factors effecting our lives take care that you live your own life.

Recently i attended a workshop which made me think of what i want to be and what i am andI am very much happy to discover what i want to be is what i am now.At least if not full time i am happy that i attempted to pursue my dream and i am successful in managing my dream come true.

So for all of us here How long has it been since we asked ourselves what we want to be.Lets always plan to do valuable and imp things in our life .

So to be what you wanted to be first Discover yourself.what matters most to u,what u want to have,to do and to be.It gives sense and purpose to our life..

so after discovering take action and do something about what matters most 2 u...once u act...life seems to take diff meaning and is no longer limited by 9 to 6 ,boring or lifeless existence.

We all stay what is called a zone of comfort and in order to achieve a dream is to come out or leave this comfort zone...yes i do agree that there is a high risk of failure..u can suffer injury in terms of time,effort,money but the end of it ..remember:that is what u want to achieve or u want to live as for which it is worth getting hurt..so first figure out what u want to be or what u want to do..if u r happy doing what u r doing rite now..then u are the luckiest person on earth who is paid to enjoy..if not u need to rediscover yourself.

Consider what's really important to you; things you value, interests you may have, skills and abilities you possess. Take some time and think about what you may need in order to be happy and ultimately successful.

Be the change you want to see!!

2008-12-03T21:14:00.000-08:00

I am scared by reading the thoughts of people who constantly pen down on blogs.
Dear all let us not spread hatred among ourselves.We all are Indians and our country is home for Hindu s well as Muslim.

Against terrorism we all are standing united. I do not want to blame a whole religion for the error of few persons.Its totally wrong, at the same time who ever found guilty must be punished whatever his religion may be.

Remember the story of a man who tested his son by giving them wooden sticks and later it was learnt that sticks when united was not broken down but singly they stand without strength.

wish we all stand united to spread love at the same time will fight terrorism.

But please do not blame each other.I saw most of the people cribbing and blaming the politicians.
Once go back and remember that you too have a hand for the current situation.Be the change you want to be instead giving ideas or proposing methods to eliminate terrorism.Its not that easy as we blog or write posts.

First of all most of us do not cast our vote,giving a chance for others to cast our vote illegally.Forget about we get a genuine leader or not, at least lets do our part to get one.We ourselves don't do that.

Most of the incidents are due to Negligence of people or by police.
The Mumbai Police has, on several instances, denied that it had prior warning regarding the Mumbai terror attack.sources told that they have been warning the Mumbai Police since February 2008.

After every attack we come up and write posts..saying kill terrorists..kill terrorism...giving ideas to do or commenting politics....so my post to all of u is to do something about it instead giving ideas or pointing fingers at others....

I read about previous attacks on India...and saw recent attack on banglore where people remember when that happens..show there anger commenting on articles or write blogs....and forget till the next attack...this is not good for India...we ourselves are the culprits...

IS IT JUST THAT WE WILL KEEP ABUSING THE POLITICIANS AND KEEP REMINDING THEM OUR RIGHTS AND DENYING OUR DUTIES??
Be the change you want to see instead waiting for others to start it!!

Just get on with life and do the best you can

2008-11-26T03:30:00.000-08:00

Imagine that I put a really big blackboard in front of you, drew a white dot in the centre of it, and then ask you, "What do you see?"and What would you reply?

Probably ninety-five percent of us will say, "I see a white dot".

But what about the blackboard? Such a big blackboard and yet we focus on a white dot.

Because this is the pattern of the mind and we are accustomed to looking at the figure and not the background.

It is thinking that gets us so fixated that we mistake it for reality . We see effects and become blind to causes. Not knowing any better we try to fix what we see, but we keep failing because what we see is merely the effect of a process that starts with us. Our frustration at our inability to fix our world just drives up the anxiety and fear as we feel more and more depressed and fearful thoughts which then just add to the chaos and confusion we seem to see 'out there'.

No matter how far we sink into our own mire, this little willingness to see 'what's here' transforms anything and everything.

So for me at least, I need to finally let go of trying to live it, of trying to serve it, and simply allow it to live and serve through me.

There's a huge freedom in this tiny change of intent because now there is no cause for stress or concern. When we replace all the reasons of 'why' we do things , and just allowing them through us , will result in no worries any more.Remember there are no mistakes in life only lessons.

How about just doing whatever that makes us happy and trust life to take care of all the rest?
It's only in the path of our happiness that we find what we have come here to learn.

Life has only one agenda: - that " be happy", now.

Do what makes you happy right now and see where that takes you.There are many things in life that will catch your eye but only a few that will catch your heart.'Just get on with life and do the best you can'.

~Indian

2008-08-15T12:30:00.000-07:00

Victory was certainly a defining moment in the history of Independent India. It was the outcome of supreme sacrifice by the soldiers of this country, displaying valour with dignity.

Proud to be an Indian is all about making the youth more aware about the country, may it be History, Wars, Politics, Economy, or whatsoever.

The days such as Independence day and Republic day conjure up memories of those countless men and women who faced immense hardship and suffering in the struggle for independence.. But gone are the times when even for an average citizen , the day held a great importance. Passing time has eroded our values and principles and also importance of these great days. The profound effect of this can be seen clearly in current state of affairs.

Its sad that children doesn't even know the meaning of freedom.We should take up the responsibility in educating them about the importance of these days.Today the national days are seen more as a holiday.Its heart wrenching to know they are completely clueless about perhaps the most significant day of our country.This growing lack of patriotism which is fast spreading its vicious roots in the minds of our youth and children which must be taken care of.

Where ever you are remember you are an Indian.

"Eee desam egina endukalidina pogadara nee talli bhoomi bharatini nilupara nee jathi nindu gauvravamu"

It’s up to us, the people,to stand up and feel proud to be a part of this nation which has nurtured our souls and hearts.

Let us awaken ourselves, stand and fight for the glory of India.
JAI HIND.

Friends I count on U

2008-08-04T21:19:00.000-07:00

I met u by chance and we became friends by choice..its wonderful when i go back and remember the day we met from being strangers to who we are today..

Even though we are not together today...still U made a difference in my life when we were together and i am fortunate for being your friend. More than like friends its like a family to me :-).You showed me how life will be and will never forget the value added to my life having u as my friend...Together we shared,cried,laughed and rejoiced for success of everyone in our gang...

I want to let you know that i will be the first person to be happy when u r successful...but do remember that i am not perfect in everyway.So there are times when i hurt you or the times i let u down,forgive me for that and never forget that i will be always there for u when ever u need me.

Bomb Blasts --My Experience!!

2008-07-27T21:36:00.001-07:00

Expect the unexpected..this is what got into my mind when i heard that 3 bombs blasted in the area i live audigodi and madiwala ..tension raised in as and when i heard the news ...initially i thought it is just a prank ..i immediately opened rediff and was shocked to see the number of blasts increasing..i refreshed the page..the count is 4,then to five and for every 15 min there is a blast updated..i am even more shocked to see the fourth,fifth and sixth blasts are very near to my office,its like we are surrounded by bombs ...don't know whats happening and why?.mean while mails,calls and messages from well wishers and friends...people trying to reach their family members and friends enquiring their safety ..this is what happened till 4pm in the evening..office security mailing and alerting us about the situation outside..at last at 4.30 thinking that everything got stabilized we started to leave office..i am 100% not sure about what will happen till i reach my place..

on the way to my room i saw the blasted sites..reporters interviewing people,bomb squads checking the site and collecting information,its very scary infact..apart from all of these i should cross a famous Forum Mall where 4 blasts happened near the vicinity to reach my place...what ever i saw looked like a suspicious object..i am not scared for my Life bcoz what ever be it i am ready to take it is the only thing in my mind.... the moment i stepped into my room called up my parents to inform my safety ,and then opened the page and saw another blast just after i left office ...its unbelievable to think that 9 serial blasts rocked banglore on a single day..

No news on who is doing this and what are they targetting for...discussions all over thinking why are they targetting common man,why IT etc and it calmed down after the last blast.

Next day people started their day as usual...and at 10.45 we again saw the news saying there is a bomb diffused near a famous Forum Mall.The bomb that was defused on Saturday morning say it was programmed to go off nearly an hour later. It was defused in the nick of time. ... we didn't dare to get out the weekend.Today on my way to office everything looked like a suspicious object while i was crossing the Mall,everything packed in a black cover made me think like there is something inside.....and the weekend was unforgettable for me and made a lot of impact in my Life!!

Pankhudi and AFF

2008-06-30T23:42:00.000-07:00

After writing my experiences with Pankhudi i was thinking of how different it is from the previous NGO'S i worked with like AFF and make a wish( hyderabad).

My involment with these Ngo's happened without even knowing of what they mean.Only thing on my mind is that to help and give back something to the society.

I am with AFF when i am just into my engineering, then worked parallely for both Pankhudi and AFF.

AFF(All Friends Foundation) as the name states, started by a group of friends with similar ideas.

I worked closely with the blind and mentally retarted children as an AFF volunteer mostly than any other activities.

Its not that easy for me initially to communicate ,i use to get depressed as i am an emotional person by nature.But now when i look back as how i started i feel surprised that the relation and bonding between us became stronger.

Being loved by these children is the biggest thing i took back .These kids truly loved me irrespective of my odds and my experiences while working with these kids are unforgettable.

I truly learnt a lot of things and took away experiences while working with AFF and it gave me a chance to understand what it takes to work with the NGO's at a very early stage.

AFF is a base where Pankhudi gave me a platform to work with a variety of roles and tasks and it gave me an oppurtunity to work with the children of different backgrounds.Children who study in schools started by social activists or the slum children.There is a lot of exposure and a chance for me to work and communicate globally.

As a Pankhudi Volunteer i work with different chapters across the world and it gives me immense satisfation working with such a dedicated Team which struggeles for making a better tomorrow for the kids.

One experience i wanted to share is,we had a meeting with the founders of Krushi Homes for working with them as partners for some activity.We the core members represented Pankhudi from our side.And there are about thirtten to fifteen members from their side who are all retired and started Krushi Homes after their retirement.They are shocked more than surprised to see us ,who all are just engineering passed outs and some are just into their jobs.That made us feel proud for their positive compliments and comments.

Currently i am with Pankhudi and at the end of it i am very satisfied to be a Pankhudi Volunteer.

I am thankful to everyone in my way till date as they touched or influenced me at some point in my life.

Proud to be a ~Pankhudian !!

2008-06-25T23:33:00.000-07:00

Actions speak louder than words ,this is what i always want to follow...and today i stand proud before everyone for being a part of Pankhudi and to know more about me as a pankhudian read our newsletter here:

www.reachfree.com/jo/news.pdf

Today i am more than happy for what ever I am today since i am what i thought to be and I started living as what I decided upon.

Proud to have a friend like "u"

2008-06-15T23:47:00.000-07:00

Friends,

Realise...at any point in time that the Life is what we make it, always has been, always will be....

I thought its worth sharing an interview of my friend here:

I got to know him when he worked for Sun Microsystems as a technical writer,both of us are an active participants in Enthu a team which creates and spreads enthusiasm at our workplace.

Thanks Ravi for being such a wonderful friend.You indirectly helped me in realizing the other way to look at things.

Here u go to read through his interview:

http://argetslam.blogspot.com/2008/03/day-with-wannabee-entrepreneur.html

-jyotsna.

Missing You all :-(

2008-03-19T03:47:00.000-07:00

Always remembering the days we spent......

I guess no one will really think about you all as much as I do dear friends,

Being apart is hard to get used to.I thought I'd handle it fine and that I would be happy just to keep you on my mind,but It isn't always that easy!

I knew that I'd miss you all and I know I can't smile without you people!The one thing that would please me the most is simply being wih you and talking to you....

Miss you all :-(

..............................

2008-02-06T20:35:00.001-08:00

Silence,It shows how much I think of how much I miss you and a conversation Being had without sound and an expression one that cannot be heard.It's an inspiration with much to say,much to hear.So i am silent doesn't mean that i lost all my cares but wondering if you are feeling Well and doing all right.

I'm trying to let you go,But it's killing me inside;My pain is ever so enduring,And doesn't want to subside.

How could I loose you,When you meant the world to me;My heart bleeds everyday,When it's only you I see.
I think of the times we were together .U are always in my thoughts and mind ...

Friend I need U and will be there When U need Me!!!

2008-02-04T21:45:00.001-08:00

I always believed in the quote which says "A broken friendship may be soldered but will never be sound..",so try not to give any room for differences to arise with loved onecs... Even if it does than don't argue ,argument wins the situation but loses the person,for me its not the situation that is important but the person,so i promised myself to never hurt my friends knowingly.For me,Friends play a very important role in my life..Good or bad or ugly.. we together did everything we wanted to do and I did learn a lot of things from everything that we did.Today i am successful and I owe my success to my friends.

when u feel like giving up,hold on just a little longer...

2008-02-02T00:54:00.000-08:00

I always wanted everyone to be happy and pleasant but some times i act crazy or foolish ..i dont know why i behave like this.After all, all in all i am just another soul.sometimes i wonder why am i like this and why do i choose to act this way.I dont even take a second to think.. are you sure you are right,or are you just being stubborn?..And after some time when i start realizing that there is some good in every situation ,all u have to do is to look for it....i laugh out loud for the way i behaved just a second before....
when i feel like giving up,i again compromise to hold on just a little longer......

God closes one door,he always opens another :-)

2008-01-20T22:01:00.000-08:00

Honda emerged victorious inspite of all the odds against him because he never gave up,
he had faith in his abilities and knew what he wanted to do with his life.

Always look for an oppurtunity in every difficulty,keep urself motivated in the darkest hours and create a fortune with the power of ur dream.There are People who go half the distance to make their dreams come true,I also saw people who are too scared to even dream big ,with the fear of failure that they dont even dream.U have to work at making ur dreams come true.
Dont give up,dont feel defeated,dont get depressed,try again and try with an open mind ,drop ur emotional and mental baggage,stay positive at all times,accept failures,learn from ur mistakes and try again bcoz that is the only way to succeed.

At any point of time remember that God closes one door,he always opens another.So get up luk
for the new doors,open it and get started again :-)

Peace Respect Compassion Honesty Trust Loyality Fun Love..this is what i saw in ur friendship!!

2008-01-14T00:23:00.000-08:00

"I understand That people and things are always going to change And you can't stop them now."

But You are the one who made things different, you were the one who took me in. You were
the one thing I could count on, above all, you were my friend."

And your language of friendship is not words but meanings.

peace ,respect, compassion, honesty, trust ,loyality ,fun, love :This is what u shown me in your friendship.

I dont really know how we became friends, by chance or by choice but at the end of it u all made a difference in my life at some point in time and thanks for that.

They say that time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself.

2008-01-09T20:26:00.000-08:00

Nothing we can do can change the past, but everything we do changes the future.
Things don’t change. You change your way of looking at them, that’s all.
Since changes are going on anyway, the great thing is to learn enough about them so that we
will be able to lay hold of them and turn them in the direction of our desires. Conditions and events are to be utilized and directed.

Life belongs to the living, and he who lives must be prepared to change himself.Have clarity of thought for what u want and carefully choose and decide how u wanted your life to be and work with commitment towards shaping it.I dont say that you will completely shape ur life of how u dremt of but the Best thing is worth trying than not having a look at it, saying Time changes things.But realise that you actually have to change them yourself .

So before thinking to change the world, think of changing yourself and Be what you thought to be.

Its never too late to realize what u wanted,the best time is "now",so go and get it:-)

life is your life, know it while you have it!

2008-01-09T02:56:00.001-08:00

Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the birds flying, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain,
and feel the wind.
I know,Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.
Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.Do what u want to Do and Be want you wanted to be,because afterall it is your life and at the end of the day smile without any regret because it is "u" who made it :-)

Your life is your life, know it while you have it.

U R never Alone!!!

2007-09-20T02:46:00.000-07:00

What does your loneliness tell you? What is it that you miss?

Everyone feels lonely sometimes. It’s part of being human! However we cannot afford to become paralyzed by a sense of isolation. We all need to connect – both to ourselves and to the world around us.

Realize that you are NOT alone

Do you know that most of the world is feeling lonely at this very moment? Think of the new neighbour on your street, or about the one who just joined your company. Each of them wonders how he or she will make friends. Be the first to give a warm welcome.

Whatever your faith or beliefs, connecting with a Higher Force through prayer or meditation will also dispel feelings of isolation.

When there’s no one around to talk to, and I feel the need, I journal in a small notebook in longhand, letting deeper thoughts and feelings emerge from my subconscious. I write about my preoccupations as well as my hopes and fears.

You cannot enjoy being alone without peace of mind. Journaling helps you to voice and resolve any inner conflicts that you have. Doing it on a regular basis will give you clarity and focus. It’s a good way to connect with your inner self.

Loneliness makes me feel painfully alive and aware that I cannot afford to get complacent. It compels me to do more, to be more. And that isn’t such a bad thing, is it?

What If...?

2007-04-10T21:26:00.000-07:00

Recently, I read an article that was based on questions stated by two lead characters in a movie. The male lead was fretting over changes and pending changes in his life, and kept saying to his wife, “What if it all goes wrong?” Her response was always, “What if it all goes right?”

I’d had a spontaneous idea and acted on it. Then, an old learned program popped up. I began to entertain self-doubt, worry, and ultimately, a form of self-rejection for possibly acting prematurely, stupidly, ruining everything...and the list goes on.

The next morning, I woke and remembered the wife’s question, “What if it all goes right?” I laughed out loud, which definitely shifted my energy. I thought about everything else in my life and asked, What if it all goes right?

My personal observations and experiences have demonstrated repeatedly throughout my life, that in the end, everything does go right. My feelings at the time something that I perceive as negative happens may be, understandably, disappointed, irritated, or whatever human emotion surfaces. I’ve learned to honor my feelings and emotions, look inside them for what they might communicate to me, and trust that “it” will inevitably go right. It always has and it always will. Ultimately. Sometimes, it’s what we’d call good stuff. Other times, it’s a matter of recognizing the role something or someone played in an overall outcome, and that everything had purpose.

It “goes right” is because I look for it. I allow my mind, heart, and attitude to shift, to make lemonade out of lemons. I don’t mean for that to sound trite, I’ve had to find that strength and trust amidst some very challenging times.

The Freedom Of Life That We All Deserve

2007-02-17T10:48:00.000-08:00

I was going home earlier today when I noticed a flock of birds flying over head. As gracefully as a ballerina gliding across the dance floor, they soared high in the sky. Catching the wind currents as easily as a professional baseball player catches a fly ball. They were beautiful against the gorgeous gentle blue of the sky. In a moment I caught a glimpse of what true freedom is. What it is like to be able to soar high. To not be bound by gravity, or rules made up by other people, or limited to the simple thinking that so many people settle for. In a single moment, my heart was lifted and my spirit began to soar.

I spent the rest of my journey home with a big smile on my face because I knew that everything in my life would be ok, and be perfect just as it is. As it will be. That there is an incredibly benevolent force that wants us to realize true freedom in this lifetime. That wants us to know what happiness and peace are. That it doesn't matter how long our life is or how many years we have, but the quality of those years. To breathe deeply and truly smell the air. To open our eyes and really see every tree as if it were the first time. To feel the sun on our face and the wind on our skin. To love those we care about and to know that every single moment is ours to do with as we wish, and that freedom, is using those moments to find a place inside ourselves that is complete happiness and peace.

Take the time to smile and enjoy the experience of life. True freedom comes from not being bound by the everyday things. By being in the world but not of it. Be in the world, but don't let it make you a part of it.

Stopping To See Your Success?

2006-12-23T21:13:00.000-08:00

Have you ever felt like giving up when you “blew it” and couldn’t meet your goals or guidelines? What if you didn’t dwell on that and instead focused on what went well, assessed whether the goal was reasonable in the first place and then got back on track without making a mountain out of a mole hill. For some reason it is human nature to focus on the negatives, dismiss the positives and mercilessly beat ourselves up for bad behavior. Have you ever noticed that doesn’t really work?

We r wht We r

2006-10-23T18:58:00.000-07:00

we are what we are because that’s what we’ve decided to be. We live where we live, do what we do and think what we think because that’s we’ve decided to do. Yes, I understand that there are some illnesses and other stuff that happens that tends to force us into a particular mode of operation. But by the same token, how we function within our situation and how we deal with the things we need to deal with is always our decision.

This takes us right back to one of my foundation principles - we believe what we believe because of our personal programming. Does that mean that there are no incorrect opinions and this is one of those “I’m OK, you’re OK so let’s hold hands and sing something” things? Oh, heck no! This just means that we all have our personal reasons for doing what we do and thinking what we think.

Unfortunately, none of us – repeat, none of us has been fortunate enough to get one hundred percent accurate and unbiased information and input into our little brains as we’ve trudged through life. As a result, we’re all playing our life game with a few cards missing from our deck. It’s almost a sure bet that we’ll never find all of them, but I think the sporty thing to do is to do our best to search out at least a couple more cards before we revert back to our basic earth elements. And yeah, we’ll count the Jokers as worth keeping.

Now that we’ve come out of the closet and admitted that we’re all screwed up to some extent, let’s get back to the initial subject. Our life – and nearly all of its components – is the result of our decisions that have been heavily influenced (or even controlled) by our programming. And yeah, we may have also been heavily influenced by other factors – namely people – but unless someone is holding a gun to our heads to “force” us to do what we’re doing, the reason we’re here at this point in our lives is because of the decisions we’ve made. Even with a gun aimed at our noggins, we still have a couple of options to choose from, don’t we?

For those of us who are completely satisfied with the way our lives are going in every little detail – we should take a lot of satisfaction in knowing that we have been extremely fortunate to have been able to make some very beneficial decisions. Back up a second here. The biggie word in the last sentence was “satisfied”. I didn’t say “happy”. We can be generally happy with the way things are going in our lives – and still not be satisfied. The way I look at it, if we have just one small thing we’d like to do differently or better then we’re not completely satisfied.

For those of us who are not completely satisfied with every little detail in our lives, we really should seriously consider doing something about it! And that brings me to the main point of this little discussion. To be able to do something about our lives, to make the changes and improvements that we feel we would like to make, we need to first say the following words:

“I (insert your name here) hereby take full responsibility for all aspects of my life. I am personally fully accountable for who I am, what I believe and what I have accomplished - and will accomplish in my life.”

Of course, you can expand that if you want to include never blaming anyone else for your situation, to understand and respect the rights of others to have any darned opinion they want because now you know why they think and believe the way they do, to not take stuff so seriously because everyone is doing whatever they think is the best thing to do at the time, that we’re all a little goofy and that helps make this world a really interesting place to live and that you’re going to do your best to take some time for yourself every day to think about cool stuff and just relax and that you’re going to chill out and have some fun and enjoy life more. (Whew, I need to take a deep breath!)

Once we can accept full responsibility for our lives and what we are, only then are we capable of moving on toward our goals and a truly enjoyable lifestyle. Well worth doing, I’d say.

regards,
jo

Happy Birthday to my Blog!!!

2006-08-19T01:46:00.000-07:00

Hey friends wish my blog a very happy bday!!;)
keep visiting my blog!!
thanx a lot!!
regards,
jo

Give back and make a Difference!!!!

2006-07-22T02:36:00.000-07:00

Eaten by magets, worms and all kinds of bugs, burnt to ashes and the ashes lost in the ocean or simply decay into non existence...

This is what happens to most people,
hell it happens to all of us at the end of the road we all travel.

If you could watch yourself after you died, would you like to see yourself decay day by day and
Parts of your body being torn apart and being eaten by worms!?

Not a pretty site isn’t it. Well atleast not for me!!
I think and believe that No body wants to be maget food at the end of the day.

And then look at this scenario, thousands of people suffering from curable illnesses but millions of people dying because of the lack of resources. Or in this case organs.

What I don’t understand is when millions of people are dying everyday with perfectly good organs that can be used to help out those in pain..
Why aren’t they? Why aren’t those in power (read govt) doing anything?

I agree there are a lot of privacy issues and also traditional values..

But if u had to choose between burning to ash, being food for bacteria,
OR being the eyes for a man who never saw the rising sun.
Being the heart of a person, who lost all hope of life? Or just about any part of a human life, that you helped make it better. in death, being life for someone else....

What would you choose?

i would choose to live on..
not in one body, but in more than a dozen.

if you choose otherwise, I appreciate your concern..
For life forms other than just human..

"GIVE BACK TO THE SOCIETY AND MAKE A DIFFERENCE"

Friends Every time one person donates his or her eyes,it gives sight to two blind pepole since each eye will be given to one person.

And there are an estimated 12 million blind people in India of whom three million suffer corneal blindness,which means their vision can be restored with donor eyes".

SIGHT IS NOT ONLY A PRECIOUS GIFT WE ENJOY BUT ALSO THE MOST PRECIOUS GIFT WE CAN GIVE."

Regards,
Jyotsna!!!

Finding ur Passion

2006-06-27T08:01:00.000-07:00

I have just finished reading a couple of articles about the importance of being passionate about what you do. In real life, how many of us are truly passionate about our professions and what we do for a living?

After reading these articles, I found myself thinking about the people that I know who are genuinely passionate about their professions. The more I thought about it, the more I realized that the people that I identified in my life as having that genuine passion are some of the most successful and self-fulfilled people that I know.

It is absolutely certain that to be the best at what you do, you need to be completely passionate about it. Think about it; if you absolutely hate to cook, there is no way that you would ever be the best chef in the world. Sure, people have natural ability, but even then, natural ability can only take a person so far.

When you have passion you are willing to work extra hours, research ways to become better, practice and improve your weaknesses and be completely dedicated to the pursuit of excellence.

All the best!!
jo

True Love??!!

2006-05-10T04:10:00.000-07:00

hi friends me and my friend discussed on true love one day and i wil present his article in todays post....i thank pavan for presenting our thoughts on a paper..his article goes like this!!!!

True Love??!!

This is what urban dictionary has to say about true love This is what i liked best,
True Love : love without need of sex, beauty,anything physical or material, expecting nothing in return.

ok, so if that is true love, what actually is love ?. well i am not talking about a mothers love for a child, nor am i talking about a brothers love for a sister. I am talking about THE LOVE between two individuals who are apperant strangers, i.e. not have any relation between them!. Is not love meant to mean the same ? is it not wanting to be there for another person, despite anything?? then how come the word true love was coined in the first place, if just the word 'love' could suffice it all??

I gather this. Humanity's greed and stupidity have known no limits through out its history, and they are not showing any signs of being tamed. And, in this case, stupidity i guess was the sole reason that a whole new term had to be coined just to indicate how superficial the world has become. Calling the lust and attraction as love was and is still stupid, and then coining a new word to indicate the higher dimensions of human emotion of so called love, was even sillier!!

Why all this nonsense ?

Well!! Jo, a friend of mine suggested that i write up a piece about how true love rarely exists in todays world, with all those men and women falling for each other and then breaking up to only fall again for someone else quicker than earlier. so I wanted to talk about how true love is no more than a word today, but then my mind started wondering why was such a word coined in the first place, and hence all that might have bored you till now.

I guess the problem lies with the generation that does not really know what love means until they really feel it. Probably no one ever did know the real meaning, before hand.

But what I am trying to say is, the parameters (as i call them) , or features (as what many others call them) that most people look for in a lover are quite limited;If not everytime, Most often. and here i quote what many of men and women want from thier lovers.

P.S. :- the number is limited to the number of friends i possess.

What women are looking for in men ?
These are the most repeated qualities that women see for in a man.
~ understanding
~ broad mindedness
~ good sense of humour
~ caring
~ Physical features , as tall and handsome (only as add ons.)

What Men are looking for in women ?
These are just simple
Most men are just glad that there is someone who loves them. They dont look forward to other features that she might or might not have!! But here are a few that are often wanted but only rarely quoted
~Beautiful
~Faithful
~Humour
~Intelligence (hmm.. not many ask for that.)
~Broad minded (we'll talk about this later.)

I can say that girls fall easily for a guy who has most , if not all the qualities in a man!. Then they are deeply in love (?) with a guy who seems to understand them and cares about them. But slowly the negative features also turn out. Guys, natural flirts, are most often not satisfied with what we have. And on the other end of the spectrum, we tend to be over possessive of what we have, a seemingly good relation with a person that loves you. And these two are mostly the reasons why we have so many break ups in this era. Which simply irritates me.

So why call it love, when what we are actually doing is waiting for an oppurtunity to break up with your so called love on.

Why call it love when all you know about the other person seems to be only a tiny percentage of what you should have known ?

why call it just love, when there is no love!!

take it from the west you guys, call it dating. If you think dating results in sex, then please call it something else but not love. Get to know the other person inside out, or atleast until you are sure that the other person not only has what you love, but also does not have what you hate. Please be patient before announcing your love to the world. And hell, if or when you fail to go the distance with your so called love one, Also know that the world is not full of morons.

all that i have said above, results from what i have experienced and known from friends and friends of friends. so what i am talking about is applicable mostly to the young adults who are experimenting with their new found freedom in the world.

People who want to experience it all like there is no tomorrow. But there is one, and there will be one till the end of your life. So I want to finish this off by quoting myself again.

"Dont love a person just because he/she has the qualities you love, but also take your time to be sure that he/she doesnt have those features that you hate"

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pavan and jyotsna!

Stop Worrying!!!!!!

2006-04-22T22:42:00.000-07:00

Many times it looks like we live for our worries. They surround us and follow us everywhere we go. There might be a lot to worry about or just many tiny issues that pile up and make us uncomfortable. We learn to cope in life and do not stress about the same things over and over again. Our subjects of worrying change, but the basic concept remains intact—we keep constantly stressing about our future and survival.

We build up expectations and then start to stress about possible future outcomes.
We worry because we cannot imagine anything else that we are aware of. Often, we are going around with our thoughts that are dependent on factors that are beyond our control. We cannot stand uncertainty. Actually, we are only afraid of the uncertainty. Even knowing what is going to happen, no matter how bad, is more bearable than the great uncertainty.

Worrying has a lot to do with self-confidence and acceptance. We have to know and trust ourselves. When we are confident that we can handle and manage in life no matter what comes our way, this inner confidence will guide us and provide us with inner peace. We stop worrying about other people and their responses and thoughts about us.

Our greatest concern will then be to act according to our own intuitions and feeling about what are the right choices and actions in the situations at hand. Facing the facts is often the most difficult part. We do not want to admit the reality, even though we might somehow realize it. It is just something too painful to accept.

By worrying we lose a lot of energy. Our mind keeps us occupied and in the negative thoughts that tie us in a destructive loop. Instead of finding solutions or positive outcomes, we are trapped in a loop of thoughts that lead nowhere. The time we use wondering about our possible future we cannot then use to find and identify new opportunities that may bypass us in the meanwhile. Often, the very answers we look for are offered to us but we simply cannot see them—we are fixed in our thinking patterns and projected outcomes. In other words, we are too busy worrying and life, and many good moments and opportunities as well, passes us by.

Those people with great wisdom have always said that we should stop worrying. We are afraid of the outcomes. Therefore, we constantly try to avoid any imaginable disturbance or negative incident. We even die one day—no matter how much we worry or think about it. Worrying does not help us to live. Actually, it does not allow us to experience and enjoy life as it comes. Worrying is time wasted without any positive outcomes expected—one of the great lessons to learn in life.

so stop worrying and start thinking friends.

ur jo.

Goals,Be Open To The Possibilities!!!

2006-03-25T00:58:00.000-08:00

As you are aware, there are two sides to everything; good and bad, positive and negative, yin and yang, action and inaction, force and allow, rigid and flexible.

In all of life there is a balance between the two polarities, sides or aspects that must be mediated in your pursuit of happiness and a truly harmonious in life. In your goal setting activities this balance must be considered or you may find yourself severely restricting what is possible for you.

Remember that as you are envisioning and deciding on a goal, that visualization is based on your present awareness and knowledge. What about all the possibilities that you are not yet aware of, do you want to limit yourself from something better than what you can see right now?

No matter how you believe about how the overall power behind the universe participates in your life, I think you will admit that frequently things do seem to happen and opportunities arise that your were not originally aware of when you start taking action.

You need to have an open mind about these possibilities to readily recognize them when they arise.

keep smiling..
jo!!

The Benefits of Meditation

2006-03-25T00:50:00.000-08:00

Hi frnds.......

The Benefits of MeditationFocusing on expanding your consciousness through the process of meditation, and specifically focusing on each part of your body through guided meditation, helps to improve the circulatory system, effectively lowers blood pressure, decreases the heart rate and gives you a calmer outlook on life. You become more patient, while supercharging the immune system.

You have mind-control over your body, especially where pain is concerned. You become more aware of your own healing nature. When you focus on your emotional self, you have a deeper meaning in your relationships with others and an “inner peace” that is beyond human description.Meditation increases your psychic awareness. Creativity, perceptual ability, and clarity are increased tremendously.

You feel closer to God in meditation. Once you get this connection, it is an amazing experience. A feeling of total joy and elation happens.Meditation MiraclesNow we know that consciousness is energy and that it is more powerful than electricity or atomic energy. It is the energy that creates life, goes beyond physical death and contacts those who have “crossed over.”

This is the consciousness that can affect another person’s consciousness beyond the physical earth-bound limits of time and space. You are a unit of God consciousness and therefore possess God consciousness.

Mystics, psychics, occultists, spiritual advisors, and ancient seers from the past have always astounded us with their ability, and so can you. You can make miracles happen in your life on purpose. You were born to enlighten others and improve the quality of life on earth, for others as well as yourself.

keep meditating..
bye
jo!

Love.........hmmmmmmm...check it out!!!!

2006-02-26T01:13:00.000-08:00

Love is but a four letter word, one may wonder how such a small word can evoke such powerful emotions?

As we already know "thoughts are living things" when you ponder, you lay claim to those thoughts and you set the wheels in motion, moving ever so closely to obtaining your desire and goals, but, and there is always a but! When you deviate from your plan, when you shift your focus from the positive aspects of love, to the negative, the negative is often what is reaped and those fluffy feelings of love often go unfulfilled.

In order to manifest love you first have to have an understanding as to what love means to you, you need to be able to define and to identify that energy and then and only then will you be able to tap into its never ending pool of bliss and draw that energy inwardly into your life, in order to love someone else, you must first learn to love yourself, if you cannot love yourself, you cannot expect someone else to love you! Misery in love is to admit self defeat, love yourself into victory!

Love opens all possibilities. I am convinced that if we all really loved ourselves and took the responsibility of taking care of ourselves, then all of our relationships would benefit – whether it is with our mother, father, or friends. Self-love is the path to bliss and healthy relationships. So, take time this month to be a great lover to yourself. I am sure you will not be disappointed.

Love yourself and everything will be fine.‘Loving yourself’ is about treating yourself as you would treat someone who is really, really precious to you. Hope u agree with me:)

urs
jyotsna

connecting with ur strengths...

2006-02-04T22:30:00.000-08:00

We can be just as afraid of our strengths as we are of our weaknesses, and just as afraid to succeed as we are to fail. In her book, A Return to Love, in a passage that was made famous by Nelson Mandela in his 1994 Inauguration Speech, Marianne Williamson writes:

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure about you. We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

Connecting with your strengths is about learning how to acknowledge your own gifts, accept compliments graciously and to present yourself confidently as the extraordinarily unique artist that you are.

all da best!!!
jyotsna.

New Beginnings..........................

2006-01-16T19:07:00.000-08:00

Along with the joy and excitement of the New Year’s season, a feeling of sadness often exists side by side. This feeling sometimes grows stronger after the New Year itself has passed. During this period we consciously or unconsciously review the year that has gone by, how it’s met our expectations and the ways in which we have developed or grown. We also become aware of our disappointments, both in others and in ourselves. The New Year itself can seem daunting to some, challenging to others, filled with excitement or with fear.

However, it is important to realize that a new year is new. Just as each breath we take is a fresh one, unless we carry the past with us as heavy baggage, unless we cling to old memories and mistakes, we can begin to live this year in a way that is truly refreshing and healing as well. Each day, each moment offers us this opportunity, if we know how to enter it truly.

Whatever has happened, or hasn’t happened, however the new year appears to you, we all can take in starting a truly new chapter, making a beginning that is fresh and new.

First is to realize that in order for our year to be new, we have to be new. No matter how much we may want to hold onto the old, life itself is a series of changes.

When we resist change, we resist life itself. Though difficult at times, change brings new growth, values, goals and understanding. As we say good-bye to plans, hopes, and old ways of being, we can open the door to new experience and fulfillment.

Along with the joy of new growth, growing pains can be common. Don’t be afraid of a little sadness or fear. It is natural, to be expected. Welcome it with open arms in the realization that new life is on the way. Allow yourself to feel what you feel. Then let the feeling go and move straight, directly into the present moment. The present moment is always filled with wonder, freshness and endless possibilities.

Then, Go over your past year with fresh eyes. Instead of finding everything wrong that has happened, find everything right that went on. think of the good things that happened to you. remember the ways in which people in your life pleased you, and the ways in which you pleased them as well. think of the things you admire and respect about who you are. (The more you admire and respect yourself, the easier it is to embark and succeed at new goals and dreams). Most of the time we focus upon the negative and in this manner throw ourselves into depression. Change this habit now. By focussing on what went right each day, the year will be truly new.

Most importantly, Give thanks. Each day find things and people to give thanks and offer them thanks for who they are or what they’ve done. It is also a wonderful way of realizing the enormous support available to you for realizing new dreams and accomplishing goals.

The New Year has endless possibilities. You may make resolutions and create many new goals and dreams. However, without a strong, consistent positive focus, in subtle ways we undermine ourselves. Build this new perspective. It’s the best thing you can do for yourself and others all year long.

Have a gud Day!!!!
ur Jyotsna.

Attitude counts...............

2006-01-05T01:45:00.000-08:00

Friends……You take good care of your body, such as eating right ,etc. But did you know it’s every bit as vital to take good care of your mind as well?

Attitude counts. What happens to us in life matters far less than our attitude about those happenings.

Every dark cloud has a silver lining –This is 100% True my dear friends.

Many times in life, things that initially appear to be bad actually turn out to be good. For example:

• Failing to achieve a major goal may lead us into a fulfilling new direction.

When things are going badly, it may seem impossible to believe that anything good can come from it.

Staying positive during tough times will help you see that all events work for your highest good.

So how do you put this silver lining concept into practice? When disappointing or painful events happen just

Stay positive. Remind yourself to keep a positive attitude. Expect that things will work out to your advantage. Cultivate the attitude that whatever happens will be for your benefit.

Let go. Don’t hold on to the negative situation. Be willing to move forward and allow the positive outcome to manifest.

Be observant. Watch what happens and notice if something good comes out of the negative event.

Be patient. The positive outcome is not always obvious or immediate.

Make it a habit to practice looking for the good in seemingly bad events. You’ll be amazed how often something you thought was bad actually turns out to be good.

Just keep reminding yourself that you don’t know how a certain situation will turn out in the end. It may turn out to be the best thing that ever happened to you!

Friends the Key points to remember from the entire article :

• Something good always comes from every bad situation

• Stay positive in every circumstance and watch your life change for the better.

so stay positive,time will definately give u answers and hoping all ur lifes will be filled with happiest moments..............

jyotsna....

New Year Resolution.......

2005-12-30T03:07:00.000-08:00

New Year's Resolutions--A Great 2006 in 4 Simple Steps - This is not my article to the fulliest but major points are frm articleBy D.K. Fynn

In this article, I'm going to share with you 4 of the most powerful steps you can take to meet your New Year's Resolutions. Let me tell you now that you've seen these simple steps before(but probably not all in the same place), so it's not going to be anything new to you. In fact, these are steps that you 'know' but probably don't realize. I ask that you keep in mind that though these 4 steps are simple,it's the simplest things, done consistently, that have the most power.

1. Vision

Despite anything your mind may be telling you isn't possible, have a vision of what 2006 can be for you. Forget about 'realistic' thinking and just 'dream big.' Take a few moments now to list off 3 of the biggest things you want in the New Year.

2. Possibility

This is where we get a little more 'realistic.' You have to know--not just 'believe,' but truly know--that your dreams are more than just 'possible'.

3. Passion

You need a passion to do whatever it takes to attain your goals.

To help you to understand this point, think of a time in your life when you had enough of a consistent, passionate desire for something that you did whatever it took to get it. Perhaps it was an improvement in your view of the world. Maybe you wanted to get in shape. Maybe it was getting a prestigious scholarship.

That's what you need! Passion is the key ingredient here. Not just today, but tomorrow, next week...consistently! (In fact, let me give you an ABC of success: Always Be Consistent.)

4. Willingness

If you truly have a passionate desire, willingness to do what it takes is not an issue at all, and is even obvious. It's still worth mentioning that you have to be willing to consistently do whatever it takes to reach your goals. (I said consistently, not just in January).

HAVE A GREAT NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
UR JO!!!!!!!!!!

A Friend Loves At All Times

2005-12-30T03:00:00.000-08:00

A friend loves at all times.

Friendship is a blessing...

Friendship is a blessing, and a friend is the channel through whom great emotional, spiritual, and sometimes even physical blessings flow. Friends will cheer us when we’re sorrowful or depressed. Friends will challenge us to attain our orginal limits with encouragement when we allow ourselves not to go beyond our reasonable boundaries. Friends will motivate us when we’re ready to give in, and they can provide for us when life falls apart. Friends are there when all is well, and we want someone with whom to share life’s pleasant and memorable moments. We often just want them around, to have a good time, to laugh, to act silly, to enjoy some mutually liked activity. In how many ways have friends enriched our lives and made us feel loved, accepted, respected and cared for? Probably, too many to list, and the list grows daily.

When you act silly with friends around they also comes and join you and get the enjoyment that you are getting. In the dictionary of friendship there is no word named sorrow. Friends will enter into that word and friends break the word into peices. They motivate us to attain our goal. They will stand by our side when you need a support.. In our life deciding factor also there is a friend and his/her friendship is helping you. When you get problem all others will run from u but not your best friend. They help us by challenging( a challenge which motivates us) and also motivates us for reaching our aim.

Friendship is everlasting...

Friendship is only everlasting feature in this world. There may be biggest miracle which can change the entire world but even in that miracle also friendship will come out from its sleep. Friendship is like a banyan tree. Banyan tree seed is very small, but when it comes out of earth nothing can stop its growth. The same applies to friendship also. Friendship will reside in our heart like the banyan tree seed. When it finds the correct soil in another heart it starts its growth. at one stage when you get more friendly with that person it will become tree after that nothing in this world can stop it. Friends will try to find new ways to make you not to fall. Friends may not save but they never let you go to deep. Friends find innovative ways to stop you from falling and try to get some more help to lift you.

Friendship is courage...

Friends, They are the only source of our brave hearts. When we don't have any friends we won't come out when there is a trouble. But when we have friends with us, We never sit inside during a friend is in problem. We may not be brave but friendship gives courage to our mind and body. Friends will save us from any situations. Friends will help us to escape from big troubles. Friends will come front to solve the problems. Friendship never knows to runaway during problems. A good friend stays when there is problem .

We can tell a lot about friendship and friends. You may have a lot of friends but try to get a friend who is loyal, trustable to us and be like that to your friend also. That is the only meaning of friendship. "BE LOYAL AND TRUSTABLE".

"The Real Happiness Lies in Making Others Happy."

Negative vs positive.............. The ever-existing battle in your mind!!!

2005-11-20T02:47:00.000-08:00

WE ARE ALL THINKING ALL OF THE TIME. Can you believe that our thoughts never
leave us. Wow! Silly thoughts, hungry thoughts, angry thoughts, happy thoughts; that’s a
bunch of emotions that has a significant impact on our lives. Physically, emotionally, it’s all there.

Every thought is connected to our body to create a response. Example: imagine a hot summer day. There is absolutely no breeze. You are sitting on a rock in the middle of your yard. Smell the earth, the heat. The sun is hot on your body. In your hand, you have an ice cold drink. You are thirsty. Put the glass to your lips. Drink. AHHHHHH. Wasn’t that nice?

Were you there with me?

Thoughts influence our emotions. Try this . Think of something that makes you happy.
Anything. Now think of something that you hate doing and that makes you feel miserable.
Okay. Back to something that makes you smile. See. Thoughts rule our emotions instantly.

Change your thoughts to happy thoughts and your emotions will change.

Well then, where do negative thoughts come into play? If you start telling yourself several
times a day that you are an idiot, incompetent person what do you think you will act like?

YOU WILL ACT AND FEEL LIKE an idiotic, incompetent person. It’s powerful stuff.

Positive thinking produce positive results likewise negative thoughts will have a negative impact on your life.

WHICH one do you choose?

letz see wht the writers say...............

A mind stretched to a new idea, never goes back to its original dimensions.
– Oliver Wendell Holmes

Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or lose.
– Lyndon B. Johnson

Do you need a little motivation? Inspiration? A motivational quote will not only boost your energy, help you stay focus on your goals but could also have the power to rewrite negative thoughts.

so stay positive...............................jyotsna!

are U fit to love?

2005-11-18T21:57:00.000-08:00

Are You Fit To Love? is the most important question you’ll ever ask yourself. Let’s face it, our relationships are extremely important. Yet, often they are the cause of pain and struggle.

Our expectations have become highly unrealistic. Rarely do we look in the mirror and ask: Am I fit to love? Today's relationships are failing because of deterioration of character. It is time we made a point of building long-term relationship success based on the strength of our characters, instead of clever-minded relationship strategies.

Great relationships require great characters. We simply must become better people for each other. Becoming fit to love is a powerful wake-up call for the brave. It will dramatically improve our relationships or our chances of finding love.

The happiest people are those in exceptional relationships. They are heavily invested in their most valuable asset: their relationship and have an abundance of life’s most precious commodity: love. They all have one thing in common: they are fit to love. At the heart of all exceptional relationships are three universal principles: mutual respect, moral responsibility and authenticity and here is what it means:

Mutual Respect: Your partner is just as important as you.

Our partner’s dreams and hopes are as important as our own. This principle requires us to think of our partner as our equal. Given that our generation has made history as ambassadors of our “me first” society, we are more concerned with getting what we want.

Relationship conflicts arise because of different perspectives. Lovers argue over who is right, instead solving the issue in their mutual best interest. The struggle over unresolved issues leads to resentment even when there is love. Love and respect take a backseat and the relationship deteriorates. This dangerous game is the reason why many relationships fail, when they shouldn’t.

Instead of trying to change each other or putting our needs first, we must realize that our partner is just as important. In grabbing hold of our partner’s beliefs we show that we respect our partner. If conflict arises and we cannot agree, we should simply agree to disagree and continue to talk with respect. Without mutual respect, it is impossible to create loving relationships.

Moral Responsibility: You are always morally responsible to those with whom you have relationships.

We live in a society that elevates self-fulfillment above anything else. We seek self-fulfillment at any cost, even at the cost of others. Regardless of how often we have heard that we are not responsible for our partner’s happiness, we are still responsible for his or her well-being. Love is a moral responsibility to another person. We blame our partners if things do not work out without looking in the mirror to see our own flaws. Yet, everything we think, say or do affects those we love.

In our quest for better relationships, we must make our relationship a priority. We must focus on our relationship not elsewhere.

Authenticity: True love only happens when you are real

Have you ever found yourself laughing simply because everyone else did? Agreed with your partner’s opinion even though you didn’t share it or said: “I love you” when you didn’t mean it. Did you ever do something inconsistent with your true self just to please someone or to get what you wanted? Of course we all have. We have lost the bravery to be real!

For many there is quite a gap between the inside and the person they present to the world.To be validated we often compromise who we are.

Conditioned by our environment we have become products of the culture we live in. No matter how good we are at playing roles eventually our truth emerges. Being fit to love means being real. When we are authentic our relationships become real and we never have to doubt them.

Regardless of the state of our relationships or how unsuccessfully we have tried to find love we have the power to radically change today. Mutual respect, moral responsibility and authenticity are key to exceptional relationships. People in exceptional relationships are fit to love and in the process they reap some profound rewards .

so now ask the question are u fit for love………….if u r thn all the best!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ur jyotsna

success..........means.........

2005-11-04T09:11:00.000-08:00

Success varies from person to person and can be defined in many terms, in many ways and
in many styles. But the one thing is certain it can always be associated with contentment.

Contentment is the Soul of success. Always set some small goals and put your
optimum effort for that. Be clear about targets and the end result will be Success. I am not
saying you'll achieve your goal I will say you'll succeed. In every battle, every game there is
only winner but the feeling that I did put my maximum effort is near to success. Hard fought
war is never lost even if you don't achieve what you were striving for.

I can tell you one thing that theory of success is really complex but can be resolved in
seconds if you have sense of contentment and recognition of efforts in your mind.
You can easily quantify what you achieve is success for or not.

Another Important thing is People, our surroundings, we normally consider people
around us as judges of success or failure but who can guess what was your mindset
while trying for anything. Results often mislead to misconception.

People can say sachin scored 100 runs so he is successful but For sachin it
can be only matter of some average performance and he can consider it as the success
for his midfielders.

So Go for your own mental satisfaction but don't be Negative in terms of Goal setting.
Success is yours and you are successful!!!!!!!!!!

keep smiling and go ahead!!!!!!!ur jo........

The Strength of a Silent Mind

2005-10-19T07:34:00.000-07:00

One of the most powerful forces in the universe available to human beings is also one of the least understood and appreciated. This powerful force is silence. The secret strength found in silence is as practical in daily life as is its true character life-changing.

If we want that stillness, that silent strength, a peace that passes all understanding, we must go within. We must go quiet.

wil continue in next post...........
jyotsna

"beware of friends"!!!!!!!!!

2005-09-20T20:23:00.000-07:00

Hai friends after taking a lot of time i am back with my new post!!!

And during this time i analysed certain class of friends and i wonder how these so called friends create problems to their friends.

Are they called as friends????

I guess the answer is "no".i think u all will agree with me!!

A friend is one who walks in, when rest of the world goes out!!! rite!

what is the hell when the one who is next to u called friend creates problems and makes u feel embrased???

so ARE these people should be called as friends who are degrading the value of friendship.

so "BEWARE OF FRIENDS"!!!!

chance makes parents but choice makes friends!

so choose your friends with atmost care because world is empty without friends.

Remember................

One Stone is Enough to Break a Glass…… One Sentence is Enough to Break a Heart……One Second is Enough to Fall in Love……and One Misunderstanding is Sufficient to Break Friendship.

Also broken friendship can be soldered but cannot be sound.

My sincere request to all these so called friends is to understand the value of friendship and realize that what matters at the end of the day is how many "true friends" are their with u to care for u when u r in bad times............

Everyone will be around u when u r happy. and all these people come with u to enjoy all those wonderful moments..........but realize that these people will never come to u when u r down............

And And And........ it is only ur TRUE FRIEND walks with u making u feel comfortable and will pull up from your bad times.......
so its important to have friends my dear friends....................

"It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice"

let the flames of love keep burning!!!!!!

2005-09-09T06:08:00.000-07:00

THE FLAMES OF LOVE

The ultimate form of friendship is love. Love is what moves us all. It is what we as humans search for all our lives. Love is selfless, precious and comes around when we least expect it. This page is to acknowledge my friends. I want you all to know that I love you all, I respect you!!!!!

Suppose you have everything; a good job, good health, good reputation, good relationships and lot of money to spend. But still there is something missing from your life. Guess what? The LOVE. It is not something which you should ignore. Life without love is just like body without soul.

Love gives meaning to life as without love life is meaningless. Lucky is the person who gets love and keeps the flames of love burning for ever. It is not a matter of days or months. Love is for life and life is for love.

Short term love encounters are not helpful at all. Be sincere with your body and soul. Indulge in serious life long loving relationship and live a healthy, happy and joyful life.

It is easy to fell in love but difficult to keep the flames of love burning. Before indulging in serious long term love relationships be sure that the person you love is also sincere with you. A selfish person can make your life miserable. If this is the case with you then try to get rid of that person as soon as possible.

Most people do not give importance to their love life as they give importance to their professional life. In most cases, people sacrifice their love life at the cost of their profession. This is a bad choice which ruins the whole life. A sensible balance between the two is necessary in order to enjoy life in its entirety. Do not deprive yourself of the love you need.

People part their ways after living together for years and years. Though this looks strange but is the obvious result of ignoring the genuine complaints and grievances of the other. Sometimes a sincere apology, gentle touch is enough to put your love life on track. However, when deep differences develop between the two then professional consultation is necessary. Do everything to bring back love to your life, if it is lost.

In order to make the journey of life more exciting and enjoyable, you need a loving and caring person with whom you can share your values, dreams, fantasies, joys and jokes. In difficult times of anxiety, sorrow, distress or loss of near and dear ones this person should stand firm besides you and console you in every possible manner.

Love your life and love the person who is in your life. Keep the flames of love burning to live a great, great love life!!!!

FRIENDS R A TREASURE...........RITE????/

2005-09-06T04:21:00.000-07:00

plz post ur comments to jyotsna_b2002@yahoo.co.in

Friends !!!!!!!!what do u expect from ur frnds?????

we expect something from our frnds!!!!!!!!!right???

so pause and remember that the "same is expected from u by your friends in return!!!"

friends whts important is not getting a good friend.........
but becoming a good friend to others!!!!!! Do u agree???

Welcome friends into your life bcoz....................

A FRIEND IS A TREASURE......

A friend is someone we turn to
When our spirits need a lift,
A friend is someone we treasure
For our friendship is a gift,
A friend is someone who fills our lives
With beauty, joy, and grace
And makes the world we live in
A better and happier place.

................even though friends are part of life they play a significant role in moulding our life.
They turn failures into successes, and they bring in a lot of oppurtunities into our lives .....

In short they bring in everthing into our lives which make our life colourful and brighter
than the one before .

And what else do we need to lead a wonderful life.........

friends!!!!!!

friends are priceless and rare,
so keep them with extreme care!!!!

Hope all of will have more friends
who brings in more beautiful moments into your life!!!!!!!!!

ALL THE BEST!!!!

JYOTSNA........

Friends r a gift to all……………

2005-09-01T07:21:00.000-07:00

Friends I think the topic which we never get bored is friends and frindship,and they r the priceless gifts of god to everyone of us.Todays post has some poems on friendship and friends ………….

Friends……

Friend: that one special person
who makes life a bit
easier by just being
there and listening to your
problems and difficulties.

Friendship: a special bond
between two people.
A bond that time
cannot break. It is strong
like a chain, with linking
hearts.

Friends r a gift to all……………

There are days when
bubbling from us comes
the innocent child within,
who giggles at the little things
and wears a silly grin.

There are days when
melancholy comes to
visit for a while;
the mind feels tired, the body weak;
we have no strength to smile.

There are days when
joy abundant
grabs a hold of you and me;
wraps us up in all it's splendor,
lifts us up and sets us free.

There are days when
sorrow wraps us
in its cloak of grief and fear,
'till our hearts ache to the breaking,
'till our eyes can't shed a tear.

There are days when
love bestows us
with its wonderment and light;
with its beauty and its mystery,
its power and its might.

And there are days when
life rewards us
and seems to make amends
by granting us a marvelous gift,
the precious gift of Friends.

UR A Gift To ME…I wanted u to know thoughts that r in my mind………

I have sat here and pondered the many horizons
of the emotions that drift through my heart
and I recollect the tears, the laughter,
the heartache and the glory.
And I wonder how it was,
that I made the journey into today.

Then you stray into my thoughts,
and I recall how many times you have held my hand
and guided me through the darkness
and showed me the light.
Then I think of the laughter you gave to me,
the smiles you brought to my eyes,
and the warmth you poured into my heart.

For those many gifts you have offered me,
I feel compelled to give something in return.
But what gift is worthy of such a friend as you?
Only the finest delights are suitable
for such a friend as you.
But I am not wealthy in a monetary fashion,
and haven’t the means to give such a wondrous gift.

So I sit asking myself what I have to offer,
and just what gift is worthy.
So I give to you something special to me.
Not a material object to be looked at or used,
but rather a place where one can rest easy
and drift into serenity.

Close your eyes if you will and take your thoughts to a place
where light dances across clear blue lakes
and enchanting evergreens offer shelter
and blue skies bring the warmth of the sun.
Where a song is whispered to you from the doves high above,
and the scents of the flowers ease your mind.
Here in this special place
you have wings to fly
and float on warm gentle breezes.
And you can see a vast array of colors burning
into the distance.
Here you are at one with the angels,
and you can be at peace in your heart.

For if you can see my special place,
it is yours to call home and you can always close your eyes
and return again.
So please take my humble offering,
and go there often, knowing that in my heart
I am with you in a place in my mind.
This is my gift for you,
as you are
my special friend.

Friends ………we all go through when we feel alone in the world and no one seems to understand our pain. No one that is, until you realize that there is a special person in the world called your friend and they can make it all better. This is the greatest gift.

jyotsna
jyotsna_b2002@yahoo.co.in

Find Freedom From Happiness!!

2005-08-31T03:02:00.000-07:00

Unhappiness persists because we resist!!

Dwelling on any disturbance within you-with the idae that the more time u spend thinking about it,the less troublesome it will becom-- is like trying to knock ants off ur picnic table by throwing sugar at them.

Find Freedom From Happiness!!

when we think about any painful event be it three minutes or thirty years old,we look at nothing more than a shadow of what once was --something that is no more!

The catch here is that these same thoughts--these shadows of experiences gone by--seem to have a life of their own ,and in a way thet do,for each carriers with it a full complementary set of emotional baggage--the still smoldering stuff of what e went through the first time the event transpired.to see the truth of this inner dynamic is the first step we must take to learn to walk away from the useless suffering that wrecks our lives,a step that brings us to the essential point of study.

whatever the cause,on any given day when lifes wheel of fortune takes a bad turn or one's memories go back around to relive some double zero day,the pain we feel coursing through us is real in itself,but the actual cause of suffering is a" lie".

Can this be?let's see.one simple question answers this misteryif we will dare answer it as honestly as we know how : if it werent for something with in us wanting to revisit these painful old images--to recall their familiar old pangs --then would we go where this torment is?surely the answer is no!which brings us the next important question :what is it in our present nature that wants ti revisit these shadowy scenes and releive the suffering stored away in them??

we can find answer to this question when we look at how we habitually react to any form of pssychological pain that pops into our awareness.we always try to make the pain go away by looking for the reason it appeared in the first place.But as we are about to discover ,our usual behaviour here is all a part of our unconcious suffering.

Heres why:we r convinced that if we wish to escape our painful state we must some how find a way to resolve it.this seems to leave us no choice other than to revisit again and again the same unhappy images taht give rise to our painin the first place!talk about a vicious circle!this is not unlike getting frightened by a scary scene ina horror movie and then closing our eyes in the hope of escaping the fear we feel for what we have just seen.The more we resist this or any negative image ,the more definitevely it presses itself into our minds eye.

But we now know that this pain --along with those unconcious parts of ourselves that have always jumped to answer it--is little more than an echo of a time long gone.As such, we also know how to answer these recurring aches with the only response powerful enough to dissolve them completely.we meet them with our understanding that thy no longer have the power to torment us as thay have always done.

we r now ready for the next step to know how to relese all that used to make us scared or sad.our studied have spiritually prepared us for this next important step.when we feel some jknod of dark ness coming over us,we must muster the courage to conciously doubt the reality of this condition,even though our feelings r powerfully trying to convince us that what we feel is true.And we can do this now.

we have seen for ourself that we no longer have to believe in "ghosts", let alone the clanking of the chains!Thanks to higher understanding that we know better .to help summarize this ,here is a short poem entitled "ten words with power to help u walk away from useless suffering"

THE "FEEL " IS REAL
BUT THE "WHY" IS A LIE !

Dare to apply its wisdom to any moment when some negative state tries to brew up a storm in u, and watch how u make even the most stubbon feelings disappear!

go ahead with ur decision friends............

2005-08-26T04:15:00.000-07:00

Friends I want all of u to read the entire post and just reading is not important,think of it and make a good decision which brings u success in life…….

Don’t break into a sprint. And, dont crawl either. Consider the pros and cons and lend an ear to expert opinions. But don't let the decision making process go on and on and on..........

Here is a real life incident that tells about the dangers of hasty decisions under the influence of fright or anger. A woman came home to find her husband in the kitchen, shaking frantically with what looked like a wire running from his waist towards the electric kettle.

Intending to jolt him a way from the deadly current, she whacked him with a handy plank of wood, breaking his arm. Until that moment he had been happily listening to his Walkman.

FOUR STEPS:

Decision means choosing between various options. Normally students are guided by their parents and influenced by their friends regarding their career and future. Here r four basic steps to make a wise decision.

1.think of a many alternatives as possible. Never stick on to the first one that occurred to ur mind and try to strengthen it. When u ask a person for an advice or to take a decision on ur behalf, think: does he know as much about the problem as I do?

2.never relay on ‘one’ expert opinion. They may be biased or not scientifically correct. Search for more information with other professionals, books, online services and newspapers. Visualise the outcome of each alternative.

3.Consider whether it is for u or someone else. If ur decision is to affect others take into consideration their values also.

4.consider ur capabilities. Never be too optimistic or pessimistic. Access the pros and cons and what u r loosing or gaining by ur decision.

Many a times u r very happy about a decision but not comfortable with its possible outcome. It is like aiming for IIT without basic foundation. On the other hand sometimes u may dislike a decision but excited about the outcome. This includes selling of ancestral property. If u feel u can live with both the decision as well as the possible outcome, this is the path u should follow.

Being unable to take a decision is called “decidiphobia.” It is more harmful than a hasty decision. Review constantly, whether u r going in right direction and getting expected results. If not, change the goal. Many students and their parents undergo complexity in this juncture, unable to change their fixed targets. Ask ur frnd to count down and tell u how many paragraphs this article has. After his reply, ask him whts the title of article. He cannot tell u. Same way when u call 4 an advice, the expert would tell u the solutions from his knowledge and experience. Take suggestions but final decision is urs.

On the other hand leave expectations when listening to a good advice and be open. Sometimes the main cause of a problem rests somewhere else. For a student who feels that physics is a tough, the reason may be his poor standard in elementary mathematics.

Friends at last I want to conclude by saying

LIFE IS A RARE CHANCE
WITH PLENTY OF PLANS
IF POSITIVE U WIN
IF NEGATIVE U LOOSE.

hai...............have a look

2005-08-24T02:07:00.000-07:00

Friends plz mail me ur comments or anything u want to share with me.
My mail address……….Jyotsna_b2002@yahoo.co.in

Have a look of this friends and hope u will agree with me………..

LIFE ENDS WHEN U STOP BREATHING
LOVE ENDS WHEN U STOP CARING
FRIENDSHIP ENDS WHEN U STOP SAILING
HOPE ENDS WHEN U STOP BELIEVING…………

The higher u dream the higher u should aspire,
The higher u aspire,the higher u should go.
The higher u go,the higher u achieve,
The higher u achieve,the higher u should dream.

Friends I am really very happy knowing that my blog is being visited by so many of u and I thank all of u so much for that.

I am really exited to know that so many of u r really showing intrest to read my articles…..and my conversation with a one of my friend sujeet revealed this….

Lets have a look of our conversation in which I am quite impressed with some of the points spoken by him after reading my article…Friends read our conversation I promise it will not bore u and u will find some intresting points coming out of that…………………

He said……………..well i can tell u one thing from this,
hope the people who read this ..just don read it but understand n implement it.

Then I asked him do u agree with me about my article friends and friendship…..
absolutely ….he said and continued……

Friends can do anything, anytime ,anywhere.And we shoud do too.Thats the reason i told u, that this life is very small for fightin n quarrelin.……..

people shud realize, josh (its me)!

understand this about frndship. u make a friend when u like him/her.……or urr frequencies match, u r tryin to find urselves in him/her,a mirror. so u r tryin to look at a mirror image of urs. rite!
well ...i think we shud b able to accept hir/her qualities in to u
we shud allow things into us

AND HE SAID……………….

let us consider our brain as a cube, so it has 6 sides.we r tryin to attach them by bringin it near.
so wat happens is .……………….only one side will b in full contact, the rest five will not.

thats the reason i tell that we shud accept him /her the way he/she is.
and that is possible in friendship. A new dimension to friendship. Be ready to let things in to u.And then u get to taste the spice of life. how u tackle them.

people get dejected for small things, they shud try n realise the valuye of life.
shudnt worry bout small failures.

this bout frndship!!!!!!

……………………………….and plz think of this friends!!!!!!!!!!!

tortise/hare story...................

2005-08-20T22:58:00.000-07:00

Friends today I will narrate u a story that will bring some points into light……..so follow them and hope u will implement them which gives u success………….

lessons........... from a twist in the tortoise / hare story many folds and see what is the final moral.

Once upon a time a tortoise and a hare had an argument about who was faster. They decided to settle the argument with a race.

They agreed on a route and started off the race. The hare shot ahead and ran briskly for some time.

Then seeing that he was far ahead of the tortoise, he thought he'd sit under a tree for some time and relax before continuing the race. He sat under the tree and soon fell asleep. The tortoise plodding on overtook him and soon finished the race, emerging as the undisputed champ.

-The hare woke up and realised that he'd lost the race. The moral of the story is that slow and steady wins the race. This is the version of the story that we've all grown up with. But then recently, someone told me a more interesting version of this story.

It continues... The hare was disappointed at losing and did some soul-searching. He realised that he'd lost the race only because he had been overconfident, careless and lax. If he had not taken things for granted, there's no way the tortoise could have beaten him. So he challenged the tortoise to another race. The tortoise agreed.

This time, the hare went all out and ran without stopping from start to finish. He won by several miles. The moral of the story? Fast and consistent will always beat the slow and steady.

If you have two people in your organisation, one slow, methodical and reliable, and the other fast and still reliable at what he does, the fast and reliable chap will consistently climb the organisational ladder faster than the slow, methodical chap. It's good to be slow and steady; but it's better to be fast and reliable.

But the story doesn't end here...

The tortoise did some thinking this time, and realised that there's no way he can beat the hare in a race the way it was currently formatted. He thought for a while, and then challenged the hare to another race, but on a slightly different route.

The hare agreed. They started off. In keeping with his self-made commitment to be consistently fast, the hare took off and ran at top speed until he came to a broad river. The finishing line was a couple of kilometres on the other side of the river.

The hare sat there wondering what to do. In the meantime the tortoise trundled along, got into the river, swam to the opposite bank, continued walking and finished the race. The moral of the story?

First identify your core competency and then change the playing field to suit your core competency. In an organisation, if you are a good speaker, make sure you create opprtunities to give presentations that enable the senior management to notice you.

If your strength is analysis, make sure you do some sort of research, make a report and send it upstairs. Working to your strengths will not only get you noticed, but will also create opportunities for growth and advancement.

The story still hasn't ended....

The hare and the tortoise, by this time, had become pretty good friends and they did some thinking together. Both realised that the last race could have been run much better. So they decided to do the last race again, but to run as a team this time.

They started off, and this time the hare carried the tortoise till the riverbank. There, the tortoise took over and swam across with the hare on his back. On the opposite bank, the hare again carried the tortoise and they reached the finishing line together.

They both felt a greater sense of satisfaction than they'd felt earlier. The moral of the story? It's good to be individually brilliant and to have strong core competencies; but unless you're able to work in a team and harness each other's core competencies, you'll always perform below par because there will always be situations at which you'll do poorly and someone else does well.

Teamwork is mainly about situational leadership, letting the person with the relevant core competency for a situation takes leadership.

There are more lessons to be learnt from this story...

Note that neither the hare nor the tortoise gave up after failures. The hare decided to work harder and put in more effort after his failure. The tortoise changed his strategy because he was already working as hard as he could.

In life, when faced with failure, sometimes it is appropriate to work harder and put in more effort. Sometimes it is appropriate to change strategy and try something different.
And sometimes it is appropriate to do both.

The hare and the tortoise also learnt another vital lesson. When we stop competing against a rival and instead start competing against the situation, we perform far better.

When Roberto Goizueta took over as CEO of Coca-Cola in the 1980s, he was faced with intense competition from Pepsi that was eating into Coke's growth. His executives were Pepsi-focussed and intent on increasing market share 0.1 per cent a time. Goizueta decided to stop competing against Pepsi and instead compete against the situation of 0.1 per cent growth. He asked his executives what was the average fluid intake of an American per day? The answer was 14 ounces.

What was Coke's share of that? Two ounces. Goizueta said Coke needed a larger share of that market. The competition wasn't Pepsi. It was the water, tea, coffee, milk and fruit juices that went into the remaining 12 ounces.

The public should reach for a Coke whenever they felt like drinking something. To this end, Coke put up vending machines at every street corner. Sales took a quantum jump and Pepsi has never quite caught up since. To sum up, the story of the hare and tortoise teaches us many things.

Chief among them are

- fast and consistent will always beat slow and steady;

- work to your competencies;

- pooling resources and working as a team will always beat individual performers

- never give up when faced with failure;

and finally,

- compete against the situation - not against a rival

12 ways to be HAPPY

2005-08-18T00:49:00.000-07:00

SO FOLLOW THEM TO LEAD A COLORFUL LIFE

1. Make up your mind to be happy. Learn to find pleasure in simple things.

2. Make the best of your circumstances.No one has everything, and everyone has something of sorrow intermingled with gladness of life. The trick is to make the laughter outweigh the tears.

3. Don't take yourself too seriously. Dont think that somehow you should be protected from misfortune that befalls other people.

4. You can't please everybody. Don't let criticism worry you.

5. Don't let your neighbor set your standards. Be yourself.

6. Do the things you enjoy doing but stay out of debt.

7. Never borrow trouble. Imaginary things are harder to bear than real ones.

8. Since hate poisons the soul, do not cherish jealousy, Avoid people who make you unhappy.

9. Have many interests. If you can't travel, read about new places.

10. Don't hold postmortems. Don't spend your time brooding over sorrows or mistakes. Don't be one who never gets over things.

11. Do what you can for those less fortunate than yourself.

12. Keep busy at something. A busy person never has time to be unhappy.

About FRIENDS and FRIENDSHIP...............

2005-08-17T06:50:00.000-07:00

FRIENDS IN THIS POST I WANT TO SHARE ABOUT FRIENDS AND FRIENDSHIP.......

Too often we don't realize
What we have until it is gone.
Too often we wait too late to say
"I'm sorry - I was wrong."
Sometimes it seems we hurt the ones
We hold dearest to our hearts;
And we allow foolish things
To tear our lives apart.
Far too many times we let
Unimportant things into our minds;
And then it's usually too late
To see what made us blind.
So be sure that you let people know
How much they mean to you.Take the time to say the words
Before your time is through.
Be sure that you appreciate
Everything you've got;
And be thankful for the little things
in life that mean a lot.

Friendship...........
Have you ever stopped to think of the rarest thing on Earth today? Does the thought of friendship, the kind acts and things that others do, make you consider it in
any way? Do your smiles turn into laughter, and your heart feel oh, so good? Do you long to spend one more minute, with that friend, who makes it all happen? Well, of course you should.

Do you have a special someone, who will lend a listening ear and a caring heart? Do you know
without a doubt that your secrets will be kept, and your words, they will never impart?

For we have our problems and woes, in this life of sorrow and of gall. But to have no one to help
you in your time of need, is the most painful of all. We are so thankful for our great God,who
gave us friends.

And He gave us the ability to become the rarest of all, yes, I mean you and me... For each of us
can be that friend, for the other who is in need.

My Friend............
When true friendship
binds two individuals together,
that bond can never be broken.
For in times of confusion,
I will be there to listen to you.
In times of sadness,
I will be there to console you.
In times of anger,
I will be there to talk with you
even when miles separate us.
My friend,when you are confused,
when you are sad,
when you are angry,
search your heart,
and I will be there.
I am and always will beyour friend.

I Need You Now..............

My friend, I need you now.
Please take me by the hand.
Stand by me in my hour of need,
Take time to understand.
Take my hand, dear friend,
And lead me from this place.
Chase away my doubts and fears,
Wipe the tears from my face.
Friend, I cannot stand alone.
I need your hand to hold,
The warmth of your gentle touch
In my world that's grown so cold.
Please be a friend to me
And hold me day by day.
Because with your loving hand in mine,
I know we'll find the way.

The Joyful Things.........

At times I'm so discouraged
with the problems of the day,
I fail to see the joyful things
that are along the way.
When troubles overwhelm me
it's then my nerves may fray.
That's when I need to take
the timeTo simply sit and pray.
Reflecting on God's many gifts,
it makes me so awareof all the joy in little things
around me everywhere!
I must try to remember
though problems come my way,
not to miss the joyful things
and the beauty of the day.

WHEN WE SHARE........

When we share laughter,
There's twice the fun;
When we share success,
We surpass what we've done.
When we share problems,
There's half the pain;
When we share tears,
A rainbow follows rain.
When we share dreams,
They become more real;
When we share secrets,
It's our hearts we reveal.
If we share a smile,
Then our love shows;
If we share a hug,
Then our love grows.
If we share with someone
On whom we depend,
That person becomesFamily or friend.
And what draws us closer
And makes us all care,
Is not what we have,
But the things that we share.
You Are My Friends And I Hope
You Know That's True.
No Matter What Happens
I Will Stand Right By You.
In Times Of Grief
I Will Give You Belief.
I'll Be There For You
Whenever You Are In Need.
To Lend You A HandTo Do A Good Deed.

So Just Call On Me WhenYou Need Me, My Friends!
I Will Always Be There For YouRight To The End!

FRIENDS U MEAN A LOT TO ME!

How to Make Good Decisions - Especially the Really Important Ones

2005-08-16T17:38:00.000-07:00

FRIENDS I AM VERY DELIGHTED TODAY TO SHARE SOME OF MY EXPERIENCES FROM AN ARTICLE I READ RECENTLY BY CRAIG LOCK.

FIRSTLY LET ME TELL SOME WORDS ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Craig Lock has written extensively on the subject of self help. Craig is awriter, who believes in encouraging and helping others to find their talents and gifts, to strive for and accomplish their dreams in life, whatever they may be. He truly believes people can overcome obstacles,
rise to any occasion, and accomplish their "impossible" dream with enough faith and commitment.

AND SUMMARY OF HIS ARTICLE IS AS FOLLOWS FRNDS READ THIS AND AFTER READING KEEP THM IN MIND.

Life is full of decisions; we make hundreds of them every day. Most are automatic and minor ones. However, occasionally we are compelled to make vitally important decisions about major life-goals. These decisions are often practical or ethical ones. For example, we occasionally have to take major decisions like choosing a marriage partner (assuming they'll take you, that is), choosing to leave a partner in marriage, or decisions about what to do with your life.

* Hints In Decision Making *

A positive attitude to life helps make major decision making far easier and less stressful. Hëre are some general hints on decision making (although it's one of my weakest areas); but I'm trying hard to improve...

1. Get rid of your mental blocks.

2. Give up the notion that there is only one 'right solution' to the problem/dilemma you are confronting.

3. Don't fear making a mistake.

4. View your problems as a normal part of life (is that possible?). Every problem requiring a
decision is an "opportunïty in disguise."

5. See yourself not as an indecisive person; but rather someone who sometimes behaves
indecisively...that's a rather kind way of putting it.

6. Develop your intuition and logic, but listen to what your heart says (gut feeling).

7. Stop and think before you act. Stop yourself doing the first thing you think of. That's me for sure

8. Be specific.

9. Know what your goals and your values are, the principles of your existence, before taking a major life decision. Ask yourself, if the ideal outcome is in alignment with your values.

10. Write down all the positive and negative factors for and against taking a particular course of action. American diplomat Benjamin Franklin did it in two columns when confronted with major decisions.

11. Think how the decision will benefit YOU first. Do what you and not what other people really want.

12. Try to think calmly and rationally (very difficult for me).

13 ("lucky"). Do your homework and get all the facts before you make the decision.

14. Get opinions and feedback from others you trust; but don't let them make the decision for you.

15. Establish priorities and "soul search" (for a "soulmate"). Ask yourself what the critical factors are. What is the sïngle most important consideration?

16. Trust your impulses, your "gut-feelings." Use your intuition through meditation - this is "God, the Universe" "speaking" back to us through all the "accumulated wisdom" of the world.

17. Don't take your decision too seriously; nothing is that important, no matter how much it appears like that to you. Ask yourself how much it will really matter in one, five or ten years time. Remember, no decision is irreversible, if you find out some way down the track that you've taken the wrong course. But some decisions are pretty important.

18. Look for OPPORTUNITÏES in any decision. Each "mistake" is an opportunïty to learn. I've launched into a writing "career" from a "mistake" coming to the other side of the world. A problem became a great opportunïty to do something I'd nevër ever thought of doing (is it the
"winds of fate," "the unseen hand of God," perhaps guiding me in a conscious decision?). If you are making mistakes, you are not learning and growing. So say to yourself, "it doesn't really matter," or "so what"...then "get into this world."

19. Accept total responsibility for your decisions. Responsibility is not BLAME - so don't blame others for putting yourself in this predicament.This attitude helps to relieve your anger or resentment and gives one peace of mind.

20. Change course if your strategy is not working - the quality of your life is at stake. My mistake is that I persist on a chosen course for far too long at times, like writing! Learn when to correct your direction. "If you don't change direction, you'll end up where you're heading."
Bear in mind that pilots are off course on their flight-path 90% of the time... but they still arrive at their destination. When driving you are also continually making little corrections; so there's hope for me yet.

21. Be prepared to take a few risks in life. Look out for
opportunïties.Every successful business or venture started out with an idea which was a
risk. Nothing is infallible. The knowledge that you can handle anything that comes your way is your key to allowing yourself to take risks.security is a state of mind. It's not having things, it's HANDLING things.and finally,

22. Look ahead to the future in a spirit of hope and optimism - the past is already gone. See the path ahead as an adventure into the unknown and a time for challenge with many new opportunïties. Every problem requiring a decision is an "opportunïty in disguise."

It's a matter of making correct small daily decisions, which are our "stepping-stones" on the road to success

I love the following quotation...

"The past is history,
the future is a mystery,
and this moment is the gift,
that is why this moment is called the present."
- Deepak Chopra

May all your decisions guide you towards a prosperous and happy tomorrow
May all your moments be full of joy and the rich promise of the future.

The Magic Of Love.....

2005-08-15T21:13:00.000-07:00

Friends today i read a recent post of my friend chaitanya and it inspired me to choose as todays subject .I thought to give a glimpse of his article in my post. Also added my opinion in this article.

The Magic Of Love
Love is like magicAnd it always will be.
For love still remainsLife's sweet mystery!!
Love works in waysThat are wondrous and strange
And there's nothing in lifeThat love cannot change!!
Love can transformThe most commonplace
Into beauty and splendorAnd sweetness and grace.
Love is unselfish,Understanding and kind,
For it sees with its heartAnd not with its mind!!
Love is the answerThat everyone seeks...
Love is the language,That every heart speaks.
Love can't be bought,It is priceless and free,
Love, like pure magic,Is life's sweet mystery!!

Here is a glimpse of his article:

A person who makes us loves him/her is actually a person who loves us more than we love him/her.

Time will tell, If he's yours he will come back.

Nobody will sympathise a person who constantly let chances passes by without making any efforts to salvage. We normally don't realise how important our loved and closed ones are until they left us, we'll start reminiscences which results misery.

If you found someone who truly appreciates you, He/she deserves more of your love.
Love needs time to realise, there might be love at first sight but it takes time to let one gradually discover their affection towards another.

Don\'t give up if you face or think that you have competitors. It\'s always better to try, if you suceed, the reward is more than you can expect. but if you don\'t try or don\'t summon up the courage, you might lose the one you like/love forever.

Love is a means of self giving and self sacrificsing, if he/she knows your flaws and still willing to accept you, continue to like/love you as you are or even more, boy, you are lucky

Open your heart, let people love you, never Doubt their intentions, sincerity can be felt by the heart. When you love, it is not for you to be understood but for you To understand; not for you to take but for you to be taken; to listen not to dictate; to sacrifice and not to demand; not to count or measure but to love.

When you love, it is not for you to be understood but for you To understand; not for you to take but for you to be taken; to listen not to dictate; to sacrifice and not to demand; not to count or measure but to love.

Friends after reading the above i think u too agree with the above stated.
Now let me define it for U

Love is strong yet delicate.It can be broken.
To truly love is to understand this.To be in love is to respect this.
Love is like the sun coming out of the cloudsand warming your soul.

What do u think friends...am i right..........

A note from the heart for u pals

2005-08-15T10:49:00.000-07:00

Another friendship day has goneby,ringing in so many great thoughts that r hard to put in words.

I remember the moments spent with my class v friend sharing food and problems in the lunch hour!I can never forget the day we r parted due to unavoidable reasons(fate in deed is cruel!).Four years ago,we formed a group with five people each one stands for their unique Characteristics comprising love,care,kind,compassionate,etc.All the thoughts and moments shared with them gently lap the shores of my sensibilities and give me company in those lonely moments and all those up's ans down's of life.

A stroy of two decades on this earth has its own tales of tribulations to tell(i hope u'll all agree with it!).Tough days and rough experiences in school,college and in graduation,but they were all swept off due to the love and affection of my friends and parents!U think i am getting sentimental?No way.It's reality.And i'm thankful for such happiness in my life.Ever imagined ur life without that love and care?It would be in a real limbo.Friends do come and go, making us whine and pine for them!

And parents are friends ,u cannot compare with anyone else.Life would be a cipher without them.It was their friendship that nurtured me-and helped me sail through the crests and troughs of life.

Friendship bands,greeting cards and all sorts of beautiful trinkets r indeed wonderful!!But ever cared for the unconditional love u receive from ur parents?Be it in a sacrifise or correcting our mistakes?Who else can be our best friend?This is no ode for them-no thanksgiving because i know that nothing can compare to their love and friendship.All other friends come later.I just want to say to these friends and all friends of mine that ,I love u and breath ur friendship.

Thanks for being their for me friends.

"Inspiring story.....Who Moved My Cheese"

2005-08-14T08:08:00.000-07:00

Every once in a while a book comes along that opens a door to the future.WHO MOVED MY CHEESE? has had that effect on me.Spencer Johnson opened my eyes to the changes streaking by me which i couldn't as yet identify.

This is used by men and women to deal with change in their lives and in their work.

Glimpse of the story that will benefit all of us.........

Change happens...........
they keep moving the cheese
anticipate change
get ready for the cheese to move

monitor change.......
smell the cheeseoften so u
know when it is getting old

Adapt to change quickly
the quicker u let go of old cheese,
the sooner u can enjoy new cheese.

Change.........
move with the cheese

Enjoy change!
savor the adventure and
enjoy the taste of new cheese!

Be ready to change quickly.....
And enjoy it again
they keep moving the cheese.

"life is no straight and easy corridor along
which wr travel free and unhampered,
but a maza of passages,
through which we must seek our way,
lost and confused,now and again
checked in a blind alley.

but always,if we have faith
god will open a door for us,
not perhaps one that we ourselves
would ever have though of,
but one that will ultimately
prove good for us."
-A.J.cronin

The Secret Of Being Unstoppable

2005-08-14T03:02:00.000-07:00

Hidden deep within you is an unstoppable power.

Unstoppable in relationships. Unstoppable in business. Unstoppable in revelation.

This power is so extraordinary that even just a brief glimpse of its infinite potential reveals the possibility of touching the stars themselves. Its stirring inspires us to create... to learn... to change as we must to realize the purpose of our own being.

The barriers that presently keep us from the success we seek -- limitation, discouragement, bad luck -- hold no real authority over this unclaimed gift. When we awaken to its higher possibilities, there is literally nothing that can stand in our way.

And while these claims may sound too good to be true, let me assure you they are understated, if anything. One could literally fill pages and pages with the extraordinary benefits of the unstoppable life -- and the words would still be pale in comparison to the real possibilities.

However, as with all things that seem too good to be true, there is a catch.

There is a reason why most people don't know -- and will never know -- the reality of this extraordinary inner-strength:

Most people are content with their life "as is." And those content with "life as usual" can never realize their full potential for this one reason: they have ceased to nourish the secret part of themselves that alone has the power to develop their true potential.

In other words, the secret of being unstoppable is only revealed to human beings who truly long to go beyond who they have been...

It is reserved for those rare few who are weary of limitation, and who instinctively know -- deep down inside their heart -- that they were meant for an ever-expanding life filled with Peace, Love, Mystery, Success, and Freedom.

Secrets of the Extraordinary Life

2005-08-14T02:54:00.000-07:00

FRIENDS.................

Have you ever longed to explore the depths of your True Self -- to touch the Eternal? This is your chance to learn the Way.

The ability to do, to act in the Now and not fall into fear, doubt, or other self-limiting states is one and the same as the power to live in the perfectly present moment.

In Living Now you're shown the secrets of how to enter into direct relationship with the Grand Principles of kindness, compassion, freedom, peace, and love so they not only guide your thoughts, but your actions as well.

Harness the Powers of a Liberated Life:

1.Solve the mystery of yourself and start true self-healing .

2.Be stronger than whatever shakes you.

3.Free yourself from any worry or fear.

4.Enter into the Timeless Life .

5.Do your part to help transform the world .

6.Call on Higher principles to empower you in the Now .

Start Seeing Through the Need for Approval

2005-08-14T02:35:00.000-07:00

Friends read this and i assure u will not get bored of this....and this is real fact of life........accepted or unaccepted.....................

There is a certain longing inherent in us to belong to something greater than ourselves. That longing that has a natural foundation is stolen very quickly, in fact it never has a chance to get off the ground. What happens? Remember grammar school? Remember how you began to notice that there were certain groups of people that maybe you wanted to belong to but they didn't want you to belong to them? From a very early age, we find ourselves being pushed along, looking to be accepted by our friends. That longing to be accepted -- which is very powerful -- doesn't end with grammar school.

In fact, as we grow older and mature, that longing to be accepted blossoms and expands. We all went through that process of feeling quite often that not only weren't we accepted but that when we did what we had to do to get approved by others, often we didn't get the approval we were looking for. What is the root of this endless compromise that takes place in us where we want to be accepted, and to be accepted we have to gain approval, and we sell ourselves no matter how we do it?

The root of that which is forever seeking acceptance and approval in us is that which is forever telling us that we are unacceptable as we are. There is something figurative that lives in us, that actually causes, by its very nature, that feeling in us that as we are, it just is not enough. We are unacceptable as we are. What is in us that feels as though it is unacceptable has to be the root of what drives us to always find acceptance.

Can you see that is psychologically true? It's like a thorn. On a good day, it's not so bad, because on a good day your hair is right, you've got the right clothes on, the wind is blowing in your direction, and things are OK. Maybe you're even witty. There is no problem because "even if they don't like me, I like myself." But that nature disappears, and up comes this person who is doing a song and dance: "Hi. I'm Gal. Please like me. I'm nice." I do a song and dance, but I don't think I'm doing a song and dance until maybe the person doesn't approve of me, and then I go into a bigger song and dance, and if that doesn't work, I just close the curtain on the person because "there is something wrong with them."

What is it in us that has us not just believing that as we are, we're unacceptable, but serving the whole idea of being unacceptable to the point that we have sold our soul to gain it? You've heard the passage: "and lose his soul?"What does it profit a man to gain a whole world What do I lose my soul for? To gain what? To belong to something by which my sense of self is corroborated. I'm real because these people and this world agrees. Here is what is at the root of, inside of ourselves, this unspoken silent killer called feeling that we are unacceptable as we are. It is, in short, the comparative mind.

That is the source of all suffering relative to a person feeling as though they are always unacceptable as they are. Why is that so? What is a comparative mind?
A comparative mind is that which knows itself by what it is not. For example, we tend to know who we are by what we are not. Do you ever think to yourself, "I'm not enough; I need more money"? So you go and make more money. Then something happens, as it always does because you've defined yourself by that condition. And, as a rule, because everything is always changing, as soon as what has defined you "goes away," what happens to you? Down you go! You crash. And then you have to find something new to define yourself by again.

This is what it means to live by a comparative mind -- a mind that always gives us a sense of ourselves by thinking about something else. For the rest of your life, make the effort to be awake and watchful of what we have looked into here, so that little by little all of us can start to see that whenever we strive for approval and acceptance to lend us the feeling of being a part of life, this is actually what sets us apart from it.

INSPIRING QUOTES

2005-08-14T01:07:00.000-07:00

...."the true sign of intelligence is not KNOWLEDGE but IMAGINATION".
-Albert Einstein

Friends these are some of the sentences and quotes that i had read from some books........

....... Never stop Dreaming.

........"when u want to something,all the universe conspires to help u to achieve it."
-taken from book named The Alchamist

..........The secret of happiness is to see all the marvels of the world and never forget the drops of oil on the spoon.

.......Think new ideas ,make work intresting.

....u must never feel that u r less than other people.u r as good as anyone.

..."Winners dont do different things ,they do things differently."

...........Never ignore somebody who cares 4 u because someday u may find that u have lost a "DIAMOND" when u r busy collecting STONES.

.....FRIENDSHIP NEVER SPEAKES VOLUMES
IT NEVER DEMANDS PROOF
IT NEVER HAS A HAPPY ENDING TOO.
SIMPLY BECAUSE IT DOESNOT END AS LONG AS THE FRIENDS R TRUE.

.........."Inspire urself to follow ur own dreams by seeing the world through your own eyes and not someone else's."

.......its the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life intresting.

Quality is way of life

2005-08-14T00:40:00.000-07:00

Friends I feel striving for Quality in our life and in every task we undertake will bring us cheer, happiness, joy and success and will always keep us one step ahead of others.
Friends Quality in our life doesnt mean quality in MATERIALISTIC things , it is but a tiny part of it.
Highlighting our strong points and working towards finding and strengthening weak points ,spending time on your own making plans on acheiving them,finding some purpose for our existence and updating quality knowledge will give us success.
what ever task we take we must undertake with full enthusiasm and dedication.
we should be honest to OURSELF ,set reasonable goals and work towards acheiving them.Sence of achievement and accomplishment will give us satisfaction and improves our self confidence.

I Strongly Feel About........

2005-08-14T00:10:00.000-07:00

"Good better and best,never let it rest,until ur good is better and better becomes best."
Trouble and oppurtunity often look alike that a person can never be sure which one is really knocking the door. some times what look like oppurtunity turns to be nothing but trouble, and sometimes trouble proves to be oppurtunity.
Good taughts make us feel fresh and boosts up a lot of strength.A continuous process of learning enlightens us with knowledge that drives us to face the up's and down's of life.
Desire is the cause for all sorrows.we must reduce our desires ,think of our duty,cherish our principles and acheive our goal.This is the success story of all great personalities.
Will,Power and Determination are the only means of success."where there is a will there is a way", from the ancient people to the present great men-determination has been the real tool for success.

The Examined Thoughts!

What does it mean to make a difference in society?

experience the Experience :)

Lesson from the Russians !!

It is always the hater who gets hurt more :)

What we do in our leisure hours determines what we are :)

Adopt a child and give them a new Life :)

Sun Microsystems many take aways especially for a life time!!

Say NO to Paper and Plastic Bags!!

True friend is a Blessing :)

This moment is called the Present :)

The Feeling of Belonging......

This is how we rang the New Year bells....

My experience at Fun and Learn with Peers an informative one!!

My Diwali Celebrations at Krushi Homes

Live as if your were to die tomorrow ..

God Save us from these Sufferings!!

How much you can understand :)

Happy Fathers Day!!

For every story you have something to take away :)

The 40th anniversary of RFC :)

Intelligence is not what you Think!!

Live your own Life!!

Be the change you want to see!!

Just get on with life and do the best you can

~Indian

Friends I count on U

Bomb Blasts --My Experience!!

Pankhudi and AFF

Proud to be a ~Pankhudian !!

Proud to have a friend like "u"

Missing You all :-(

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Friend I need U and will be there When U need Me!!!

when u feel like giving up,hold on just a little longer...

God closes one door,he always opens another :-)

Peace Respect Compassion Honesty Trust Loyality Fun Love..this is what i saw in ur friendship!!

They say that time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself.

life is your life, know it while you have it!

U R never Alone!!!

What If...?

The Freedom Of Life That We All Deserve

Stopping To See Your Success?

We r wht We r

Happy Birthday to my Blog!!!

Give back and make a Difference!!!!

Finding ur Passion

True Love??!!

Stop Worrying!!!!!!

Goals,Be Open To The Possibilities!!!

The Benefits of Meditation

Love.........hmmmmmmm...check it out!!!!

connecting with ur strengths...

New Beginnings..........................

Attitude counts...............

New Year Resolution.......

A Friend Loves At All Times

Negative vs positive.............. The ever-existing battle in your mind!!!

are U fit to love?

success..........means.........

The Strength of a Silent Mind

"beware of friends"!!!!!!!!!

let the flames of love keep burning!!!!!!

FRIENDS R A TREASURE...........RITE????/

Friends r a gift to all……………

Friends I think the topic which we never get bored is friends and frindship,and they r the priceless gifts of god to everyone of us.Todays post has some poems on friendship and friends ………….

FRIENDS Always Remember that……

My Friends………

Find Freedom From Happiness!!

go ahead with ur decision friends............

hai...............have a look

tortise/hare story...................

12 ways to be HAPPY

About FRIENDS and FRIENDSHIP...............

How to Make Good Decisions - Especially the Really Important Ones

The Magic Of Love.....

A note from the heart for u pals

"Inspiring story.....Who Moved My Cheese"

The Secret Of Being Unstoppable

Secrets of the Extraordinary Life