Lesson from the Russians !!

As i always do while i was reading a book today i saw an interesting peace for us to learn.This advice is very much as how i think but totally in a contrast way that happened in Russia.I always wanted weddings to be simple but many say that it is a great event in everyone's life so wanted to be grand.No contradictions anyways everyone will have their own opinion.

But to be honest i liked this peace because it goes in the same lines as i think.

The amount of money spent sometimes constitutes the entire life's savings of a person.At times people take such huge lones for this celebration that they end up repaying them throughout their life.

People like us are worried about the finest jewelery and saris.

Russia in contradiction ,wedding takes place normally on Saturdays and Sundays.Irrespective of season after signing the register married couple must visit the important national monuments near by.Every boy in the country has to serve in the military for couple of years at least.Regardless of his position he must wear service uniform for the wedding :)

This is mark of gratitude.The newly married couple has to remember they are living in a peaceful,independent Russia because of their ancestor's sacrifices.

But We are busy shopping for saris,buying jewelery and preparing elaborate menus :)
I wished we could learn a lesson from the Russians.

I don't really suggest to do like what Russians do but at least instead of pouring money for such kind of events these can be spent for lighting someones lives which remains even more memorable in your life.Just my thought !! Not asking everyone to do :)


Keep Thinking,
Jo

It is always the hater who gets hurt more :)

I never got a thought to write about this topic before but today here it is i have learnt something from it.This to to people who doesn't knew about this before :)

Every negative emotion secretes acid in your body,and acid destroys the vessel,which contains it.

Negative emotions like anger,frustration and disappointment are visiting emotions.The consolation being,they rise in you when an event happens and then they die down once you are distracted into the other events.

Hatred is a progressive negative emotion.It gains depth with the passage of time.The more you process your hurt the more you deepen your hatred.

Hatred takes you away from the real U.You cease to feel,think and act as you.The 'hated' now becomes the hero of your mind and heart,literally remote controlling how you feel,think and act. :)

Forgiveness is not liberating the other from u,but liberating yourself from other.

Nothing and nobody deserves a disturbing presence within you.

Let go the disturbance and let in peace" .

Everyman will face the consequences of his own doing.You don't make yourself wrong to prove that the other is wrong.

Give up your need to prove that the other is wrong.It still changes nothing about your life.

Something happened to teach you something :)

Learn the lessons and just move on...

Keep Smiling
Jo

What we do in our leisure hours determines what we are :)

"What we do during our working hours determines what we have;
What we do in our leisure hours determines what we are ."

Life is not all about what you have,it is all about how you make it for your dreams to come True.

Everyone has a feel good factor,think before you do it.Its your choice and not a chance.So choose how you want to be.Be in the circle of positive influences that makes your life and day simpler,easier and worthwhile :)

Your thoughts makes you or breaks you at the end of the day.
Everyday is fresh waiting for you,you can learn something out of it.

Instead thinking i am supposed to be,be what you want to be irrespective of what others feel about it!!But be careful in what ever you do such that it will not harm others.
After all this is a world of people with different opinions,you have the right to go ahead with yours :)

I believe when i do good,I feelgood!!
When i do bad,i feel bad!!

This is what i am,i live my life :)

Keep Smiling,
Jo

Adopt a child and give them a new Life :)

Once upon a time there was an idea that struck my mind.I thought how it will be if i adopt a child?Isn't it nice and a good feeling when you are giving a life to a child's dream.

Initially I don't know how to proceed,i don't know much about the acts, no idea how to and where to start about it.No idea of my initial step.But now as when i started reading about Hindu Adoptions And Maintenance Act, 1956 aka HAMA,i felt that the procedure was and is a hurdle for the people to adopt one.

So many restrictions and so many rules to follow.So many documents to submit.Taking the child to court every year till five years.Yes at the end of it security of the child is important but with the current act i feel people coming forward will be very few crossing all these.

These are quite a few to know more about it you can go through the act.

But at the end of the day i request people to think about Adopting a child and giving them a new life they dream off.That's the best thing you can do in your life time :)

-Jo

Sun Microsystems many take aways especially for a life time!!

Life at Sun Microsystems !!

A mentor,who wont be lucky if you get a mentor to guide you for what you will be when you start of with nothing.I am the most lucky gal to have one.My friends,people from varied cultures and cities still with a common religion which is friendship.I got friends for a life time irrespective of ages.Biswa as i call him is elder to me by 15 years,he always made me think before i utter or pen down.Thanks for guiding me :)

I organized a fashion show which became a big success and which brought me from a back stage enthusiast to front stage.I was shocked people shouting and when the MC announced My and Saurabh's name.My manager was in a shock :) i was even more shocked,i realized it after a minute that people are calling us.I thoroughly enjoyed my show and the response sitting in the audience :)I can never forget that day,one of my dream come true.All the creativity in me moulded and shaped as a single show that too accepted by everyone.Awesome memories.

A wonderful team i had ,always helpful in everyway both personal and professional as i used to stay alone in Bangalore.

A wonderful friend Naveen who always supported me and took care of me so well more than his sister.

While i was at Sun i am a part of my Band and gave performances.We used to organize all the shows and had an amazing group of friends and its fun remembering all those again.Unforgettable and always remembered.

Staying away from home taught me how life will be.Both good,bad and better :)

Tag line used to suit what we are doing Fun while working @ Sun.The most memorable thing and a big achievement in my life time is being at Sun and being an employee of Sun Microsystems :)

Say NO to Paper and Plastic Bags!!

When i read an article about Paper or plastic?

I immediately said Paper bag but i am surprised and awestruck when i got to know these facts .
It states Neither of them are roughly equal in pros and cons. While convenient addictions, they both gobble up natural resources and cause significant pollution. It takes more than four times as much energy to manufacture a paper bag as it does to manufacture a plastic bag.

And the worst part is it takes 91% less energy to recycle a pound of plastic than it
takes to recycle a pound of paper. But recycling rates of either type of disposable bag are extremely low, with only 10 to 15% of paper bags and 1 to 3% of plastic bags being recycled, according to the Wall Street Journal.

Paper sacks generate 70% more air and 50 times more water pollutants than plastic bags.It takes 11 times as much energy to recycle a pound of paper as to recycle a pound of plastic. And plastic bags require 40 percent to 70 percent less energy to recycle than paper bags.

Its better using a Cloth Bag instead of having debates whether to use a Plastic or a paper bag :)

To limit the debate between paper and plastic is a false choice. In 2008, China, the largest plastic-bag consumer, started banning stores from offering plastic bags for free. The goal has been to encourage shoppers to return to the tradition of using their own cloth bags for shopping.

You know i read that,To produce each week's Sunday newspapers, 500,000 trees must be cut down.
Recycling a single run of the Sunday New York Times would save 75,000 trees.
If all our newspaper was recycled, we could save about 250,000,000 trees each year!

And when it comes to plastic Americans use 2,500,000 plastic bottles every hour! Most of them are thrown away!
Plastic bags and other plastic garbage thrown into the ocean kill as many as 1,000,000 sea creatures every year!

Use Cloth bags and save Environment which in turn saves Us. :)

True friend is a Blessing :)

I want to wish you all a very happy Friendship Day.Thanks for being a part of my life.You all touched my life in some or the other way and i learnt something from you all:)

Friend as a word has no meaning it is a wonderful feeling and a fabulous bond between people.As long as u have a true friend beside,you are one of the luckiest person on earth.

Only one thing in the world which expects nothing except your smile on your face is your friendship.It expects nothing in return.

One of the finest line that i believe is to “To Have a Friend, Be One”.

Don't judge them.Accept them as they are and because no one is perfect and don't expect them to change for yourself.If they are going in a wrong track its your responsibility to take them in right direction.

There is no gender limit for friendship.Every one is unique.If you do not have egos you will never have issues :)

Small misunderstandings sometimes causes a break off .see to it that the other side also understand and give a chance to your friend because don't forget that they are the one who stood beside you when you want them the most.

There is no language or religion to friendship,its itself is a language that speaks about a friend.

"True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils.

Strive to have friends, for life without friends is like life on a desert island….to find one real friend in a lifetime is good fortune; to keep them is a blessing."

Keep Smiling :)
-Jo

This moment is called the Present :)

I am Jo :) Surprised introducing myself again ya i know ..but the situation :) Good to be back !! Every time i want to write a post i make a delay,the delay used to be so that i end up forgetting what i want to communicate.Previously i used to like writing them now i delay writing them since i am not getting time...then i questioned myself am i so busy and if so what am i doing ? I have no answer.

I then started thinking what i am getting and what am i loosing,i stopped enjoying doing things what i like the most.It applies to everything work,Personal,professional everything that i can think of.

Am i the one i used to be?
Without a pause my answer is no!!
I stopped writing,i stopped working for the under privileged,i stopped doing what i want to do.

Then i thought let me live the life i wanted to be.

The past is history ,the future is a mystery and this moment is a gift.That is why this moment is called the "Present".

If you embrace the present and become one with it,and merge with it,you will experience a fire,a glow,a sparkle of ecstasy throbbing in every living sentient being.

In this joyful,simple freedom,you will know without any doubt in your heart that what you want is available to you when ever you want it,because your want will be from the level of happiness,not from the level of anxiety.You do not need to justify anyone except yourself.

Take responsibility and Dont blame anyone or anything for your situation,including yourself.Remember all problems contain an hidden opportunity.

Problem is never a problem ,its just the situation that creates a problem and you can deal with it :)

In the same post i want to share an interesting conversation with my friend.We used to work at sun, he is very senior to me at age but a very good supporter and a friend of mine.He always follows all my status messages and we have discussions onn that yesterday he has an amazing analysis.

This is my version :

Give thousand chances to your enemy to become your friend, But don ' t give a single chance to your friend to become your enemy and Dont worry about the people in your past, There's a Reason .......They Didn't Make It To Your Future :)

He said:

should then India give thousand chances to Pakistan? it gave just 100 till now

If a friend becomes an enemy, he was never a "true" friend from the start only, right? In that case, he was putting a wrong garb of friendship and it is better if he officially becomes an "enemy" as he can be easily identified now. a True friend can never ever turn to an enemy.

How true it is :)

Have a fun filled weekend!!

The Feeling of Belonging......

We always wanted to do something to the children of the Orphanage Dwarakamayi, that Sanhita Maitri is associated with, which would make them that we belong to them. We wanted to show them that we are not just any other donor just giving money. This Jan 31st was one of our friend's birthday, so we got an idea which would make the children happy. We celebrated his birthday there.

It was indeed a very good experience for our friend as he was wished by so many little and cute kids with their heartful greetings :) It was a good and memorable experience for him and the children too.

This is how we rang the New Year bells....

Ah! It is that time of the year again. The magic time when most of us have been close to exhaustion from all the situations we have been through during the old year and we are ready to begin afresh. Blessed is he who invented the concept of the New Year for he has given us hope just when we thought we couldn’t take it any longer.

Even for those whose old year was a good one, the idea of a clean slate is short of a miracle.

So here we are at the end of December. The first of January approaching fast and furious and we begin to think about all the great things that we would like to be, do, or have for the next 12

So right the start of the year,and the one we always look forward for is for the Celebrations too.Definition of it varies from person to person but the output is still the same which is joy and happiness J

On the New year day Jan 1st i vistied Krushi Homes as usual greeted kids and spent some time with them.
And on second day i celebrated with my friends of Sanhita Maitri:)

We Sanhita Maitri celebrated and welcomed our new Year with the kids of “Dwarakamayee Seva Samithi “.Smiles on the faces of these kids is a gift back to us for the long year and also for a start of a great year.

We distributed new clothes to this kids while we had celebrations with Cake,Sweets,Chocolates and what not.Overwhelmed with everything.

Hope this year brings joy and Happiness to everyone.