Saturday, March 25, 2006

Goals,Be Open To The Possibilities!!!

As you are aware, there are two sides to everything; good and bad, positive and negative, yin and yang, action and inaction, force and allow, rigid and flexible.

In all of life there is a balance between the two polarities, sides or aspects that must be mediated in your pursuit of happiness and a truly harmonious in life. In your goal setting activities this balance must be considered or you may find yourself severely restricting what is possible for you.

Remember that as you are envisioning and deciding on a goal, that visualization is based on your present awareness and knowledge. What about all the possibilities that you are not yet aware of, do you want to limit yourself from something better than what you can see right now?

No matter how you believe about how the overall power behind the universe participates in your life, I think you will admit that frequently things do seem to happen and opportunities arise that your were not originally aware of when you start taking action.

You need to have an open mind about these possibilities to readily recognize them when they arise.

keep smiling..
jo!!

The Benefits of Meditation

Hi frnds.......

The Benefits of MeditationFocusing on expanding your consciousness through the process of meditation, and specifically focusing on each part of your body through guided meditation, helps to improve the circulatory system, effectively lowers blood pressure, decreases the heart rate and gives you a calmer outlook on life. You become more patient, while supercharging the immune system.

You have mind-control over your body, especially where pain is concerned. You become more aware of your own healing nature. When you focus on your emotional self, you have a deeper meaning in your relationships with others and an “inner peace” that is beyond human description.Meditation increases your psychic awareness. Creativity, perceptual ability, and clarity are increased tremendously.

You feel closer to God in meditation. Once you get this connection, it is an amazing experience. A feeling of total joy and elation happens.Meditation MiraclesNow we know that consciousness is energy and that it is more powerful than electricity or atomic energy. It is the energy that creates life, goes beyond physical death and contacts those who have “crossed over.”

This is the consciousness that can affect another person’s consciousness beyond the physical earth-bound limits of time and space. You are a unit of God consciousness and therefore possess God consciousness.

Mystics, psychics, occultists, spiritual advisors, and ancient seers from the past have always astounded us with their ability, and so can you. You can make miracles happen in your life on purpose. You were born to enlighten others and improve the quality of life on earth, for others as well as yourself.

keep meditating..
bye
jo!

Sunday, February 26, 2006

Love.........hmmmmmmm...check it out!!!!

Love is but a four letter word, one may wonder how such a small word can evoke such powerful emotions?

As we already know "thoughts are living things" when you ponder, you lay claim to those thoughts and you set the wheels in motion, moving ever so closely to obtaining your desire and goals, but, and there is always a but! When you deviate from your plan, when you shift your focus from the positive aspects of love, to the negative, the negative is often what is reaped and those fluffy feelings of love often go unfulfilled.

In order to manifest love you first have to have an understanding as to what love means to you, you need to be able to define and to identify that energy and then and only then will you be able to tap into its never ending pool of bliss and draw that energy inwardly into your life, in order to love someone else, you must first learn to love yourself, if you cannot love yourself, you cannot expect someone else to love you! Misery in love is to admit self defeat, love yourself into victory!


Love opens all possibilities. I am convinced that if we all really loved ourselves and took the responsibility of taking care of ourselves, then all of our relationships would benefit – whether it is with our mother, father, or friends. Self-love is the path to bliss and healthy relationships. So, take time this month to be a great lover to yourself. I am sure you will not be disappointed.

Love yourself and everything will be fine.‘Loving yourself’ is about treating yourself as you would treat someone who is really, really precious to you. Hope u agree with me:)

urs
jyotsna

Saturday, February 04, 2006

connecting with ur strengths...

We can be just as afraid of our strengths as we are of our weaknesses, and just as afraid to succeed as we are to fail. In her book, A Return to Love, in a passage that was made famous by Nelson Mandela in his 1994 Inauguration Speech, Marianne Williamson writes:

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure about you. We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

Connecting with your strengths is about learning how to acknowledge your own gifts, accept compliments graciously and to present yourself confidently as the extraordinarily unique artist that you are.

all da best!!!
jyotsna.

Monday, January 16, 2006

New Beginnings..........................

Along with the joy and excitement of the New Year’s season, a feeling of sadness often exists side by side. This feeling sometimes grows stronger after the New Year itself has passed. During this period we consciously or unconsciously review the year that has gone by, how it’s met our expectations and the ways in which we have developed or grown. We also become aware of our disappointments, both in others and in ourselves. The New Year itself can seem daunting to some, challenging to others, filled with excitement or with fear.

However, it is important to realize that a new year is new. Just as each breath we take is a fresh one, unless we carry the past with us as heavy baggage, unless we cling to old memories and mistakes, we can begin to live this year in a way that is truly refreshing and healing as well. Each day, each moment offers us this opportunity, if we know how to enter it truly.

Whatever has happened, or hasn’t happened, however the new year appears to you, we all can take in starting a truly new chapter, making a beginning that is fresh and new.

First is to realize that in order for our year to be new, we have to be new. No matter how much we may want to hold onto the old, life itself is a series of changes.

When we resist change, we resist life itself. Though difficult at times, change brings new growth, values, goals and understanding. As we say good-bye to plans, hopes, and old ways of being, we can open the door to new experience and fulfillment.

Along with the joy of new growth, growing pains can be common. Don’t be afraid of a little sadness or fear. It is natural, to be expected. Welcome it with open arms in the realization that new life is on the way. Allow yourself to feel what you feel. Then let the feeling go and move straight, directly into the present moment. The present moment is always filled with wonder, freshness and endless possibilities.

Then, Go over your past year with fresh eyes. Instead of finding everything wrong that has happened, find everything right that went on. think of the good things that happened to you. remember the ways in which people in your life pleased you, and the ways in which you pleased them as well. think of the things you admire and respect about who you are. (The more you admire and respect yourself, the easier it is to embark and succeed at new goals and dreams). Most of the time we focus upon the negative and in this manner throw ourselves into depression. Change this habit now. By focussing on what went right each day, the year will be truly new.

Most importantly, Give thanks. Each day find things and people to give thanks and offer them thanks for who they are or what they’ve done. It is also a wonderful way of realizing the enormous support available to you for realizing new dreams and accomplishing goals.

The New Year has endless possibilities. You may make resolutions and create many new goals and dreams. However, without a strong, consistent positive focus, in subtle ways we undermine ourselves. Build this new perspective. It’s the best thing you can do for yourself and others all year long.


Have a gud Day!!!!
ur Jyotsna.

Thursday, January 05, 2006

Attitude counts...............

Friends……You take good care of your body, such as eating right ,etc. But did you know it’s every bit as vital to take good care of your mind as well?

Attitude counts. What happens to us in life matters far less than our attitude about those happenings.

Every dark cloud has a silver lining –This is 100% True my dear friends.

Many times in life, things that initially appear to be bad actually turn out to be good. For example:

• Failing to achieve a major goal may lead us into a fulfilling new direction.

When things are going badly, it may seem impossible to believe that anything good can come from it.

Staying positive during tough times will help you see that all events work for your highest good.

So how do you put this silver lining concept into practice? When disappointing or painful events happen just

Stay positive. Remind yourself to keep a positive attitude. Expect that things will work out to your advantage. Cultivate the attitude that whatever happens will be for your benefit.

Let go. Don’t hold on to the negative situation. Be willing to move forward and allow the positive outcome to manifest.

Be observant. Watch what happens and notice if something good comes out of the negative event.

Be patient. The positive outcome is not always obvious or immediate.


Make it a habit to practice looking for the good in seemingly bad events. You’ll be amazed how often something you thought was bad actually turns out to be good.

Just keep reminding yourself that you don’t know how a certain situation will turn out in the end. It may turn out to be the best thing that ever happened to you!

Friends the Key points to remember from the entire article :

• Something good always comes from every bad situation

• Stay positive in every circumstance and watch your life change for the better.

so stay positive,time will definately give u answers and hoping all ur lifes will be filled with happiest moments..............

jyotsna....

Friday, December 30, 2005

New Year Resolution.......

New Year's Resolutions--A Great 2006 in 4 Simple Steps - This is not my article to the fulliest but major points are frm articleBy D.K. Fynn

In this article, I'm going to share with you 4 of the most powerful steps you can take to meet your New Year's Resolutions. Let me tell you now that you've seen these simple steps before(but probably not all in the same place), so it's not going to be anything new to you. In fact, these are steps that you 'know' but probably don't realize. I ask that you keep in mind that though these 4 steps are simple,it's the simplest things, done consistently, that have the most power.

1. Vision

Despite anything your mind may be telling you isn't possible, have a vision of what 2006 can be for you. Forget about 'realistic' thinking and just 'dream big.' Take a few moments now to list off 3 of the biggest things you want in the New Year.

2. Possibility

This is where we get a little more 'realistic.' You have to know--not just 'believe,' but truly know--that your dreams are more than just 'possible'.

3. Passion

You need a passion to do whatever it takes to attain your goals.

To help you to understand this point, think of a time in your life when you had enough of a consistent, passionate desire for something that you did whatever it took to get it. Perhaps it was an improvement in your view of the world. Maybe you wanted to get in shape. Maybe it was getting a prestigious scholarship.

That's what you need! Passion is the key ingredient here. Not just today, but tomorrow, next week...consistently! (In fact, let me give you an ABC of success: Always Be Consistent.)

4. Willingness

If you truly have a passionate desire, willingness to do what it takes is not an issue at all, and is even obvious. It's still worth mentioning that you have to be willing to consistently do whatever it takes to reach your goals. (I said consistently, not just in January).

HAVE A GREAT NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
UR JO!!!!!!!!!!

A Friend Loves At All Times


A friend loves at all times.

Friendship is a blessing...

Friendship is a blessing, and a friend is the channel through whom great emotional, spiritual, and sometimes even physical blessings flow. Friends will cheer us when we’re sorrowful or depressed. Friends will challenge us to attain our orginal limits with encouragement when we allow ourselves not to go beyond our reasonable boundaries. Friends will motivate us when we’re ready to give in, and they can provide for us when life falls apart. Friends are there when all is well, and we want someone with whom to share life’s pleasant and memorable moments. We often just want them around, to have a good time, to laugh, to act silly, to enjoy some mutually liked activity. In how many ways have friends enriched our lives and made us feel loved, accepted, respected and cared for? Probably, too many to list, and the list grows daily.

When you act silly with friends around they also comes and join you and get the enjoyment that you are getting. In the dictionary of friendship there is no word named sorrow. Friends will enter into that word and friends break the word into peices. They motivate us to attain our goal. They will stand by our side when you need a support.. In our life deciding factor also there is a friend and his/her friendship is helping you. When you get problem all others will run from u but not your best friend. They help us by challenging( a challenge which motivates us) and also motivates us for reaching our aim.


Friendship is everlasting...

Friendship is only everlasting feature in this world. There may be biggest miracle which can change the entire world but even in that miracle also friendship will come out from its sleep. Friendship is like a banyan tree. Banyan tree seed is very small, but when it comes out of earth nothing can stop its growth. The same applies to friendship also. Friendship will reside in our heart like the banyan tree seed. When it finds the correct soil in another heart it starts its growth. at one stage when you get more friendly with that person it will become tree after that nothing in this world can stop it. Friends will try to find new ways to make you not to fall. Friends may not save but they never let you go to deep. Friends find innovative ways to stop you from falling and try to get some more help to lift you.


Friendship is courage...

Friends, They are the only source of our brave hearts. When we don't have any friends we won't come out when there is a trouble. But when we have friends with us, We never sit inside during a friend is in problem. We may not be brave but friendship gives courage to our mind and body. Friends will save us from any situations. Friends will help us to escape from big troubles. Friends will come front to solve the problems. Friendship never knows to runaway during problems. A good friend stays when there is problem .

We can tell a lot about friendship and friends. You may have a lot of friends but try to get a friend who is loyal, trustable to us and be like that to your friend also. That is the only meaning of friendship. "BE LOYAL AND TRUSTABLE".

"The Real Happiness Lies in Making Others Happy."

Sunday, November 20, 2005

Negative vs positive.............. The ever-existing battle in your mind!!!

WE ARE ALL THINKING ALL OF THE TIME. Can you believe that our thoughts never
leave us. Wow! Silly thoughts, hungry thoughts, angry thoughts, happy thoughts; that’s a
bunch of emotions that has a significant impact on our lives. Physically, emotionally, it’s all there.

Every thought is connected to our body to create a response. Example: imagine a hot summer day. There is absolutely no breeze. You are sitting on a rock in the middle of your yard. Smell the earth, the heat. The sun is hot on your body. In your hand, you have an ice cold drink. You are thirsty. Put the glass to your lips. Drink. AHHHHHH. Wasn’t that nice?

Were you there with me?

Thoughts influence our emotions. Try this . Think of something that makes you happy.
Anything. Now think of something that you hate doing and that makes you feel miserable.
Okay. Back to something that makes you smile. See. Thoughts rule our emotions instantly.

Change your thoughts to happy thoughts and your emotions will change.

Well then, where do negative thoughts come into play? If you start telling yourself several
times a day that you are an idiot, incompetent person what do you think you will act like?

YOU WILL ACT AND FEEL LIKE an idiotic, incompetent person. It’s powerful stuff.

Positive thinking produce positive results likewise negative thoughts will have a negative impact on your life.

WHICH one do you choose?

letz see wht the writers say...............

A mind stretched to a new idea, never goes back to its original dimensions.
– Oliver Wendell Holmes

Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or lose.
– Lyndon B. Johnson


Do you need a little motivation? Inspiration? A motivational quote will not only boost your energy, help you stay focus on your goals but could also have the power to rewrite negative thoughts.

so stay positive...............................jyotsna!

Friday, November 18, 2005

are U fit to love?

Are You Fit To Love? is the most important question you’ll ever ask yourself. Let’s face it, our relationships are extremely important. Yet, often they are the cause of pain and struggle.

Our expectations have become highly unrealistic. Rarely do we look in the mirror and ask: Am I fit to love? Today's relationships are failing because of deterioration of character. It is time we made a point of building long-term relationship success based on the strength of our characters, instead of clever-minded relationship strategies.

Great relationships require great characters. We simply must become better people for each other. Becoming fit to love is a powerful wake-up call for the brave. It will dramatically improve our relationships or our chances of finding love.

The happiest people are those in exceptional relationships. They are heavily invested in their most valuable asset: their relationship and have an abundance of life’s most precious commodity: love. They all have one thing in common: they are fit to love. At the heart of all exceptional relationships are three universal principles: mutual respect, moral responsibility and authenticity and here is what it means:

Mutual Respect: Your partner is just as important as you.


Our partner’s dreams and hopes are as important as our own. This principle requires us to think of our partner as our equal. Given that our generation has made history as ambassadors of our “me first” society, we are more concerned with getting what we want.

Relationship conflicts arise because of different perspectives. Lovers argue over who is right, instead solving the issue in their mutual best interest. The struggle over unresolved issues leads to resentment even when there is love. Love and respect take a backseat and the relationship deteriorates. This dangerous game is the reason why many relationships fail, when they shouldn’t.

Instead of trying to change each other or putting our needs first, we must realize that our partner is just as important. In grabbing hold of our partner’s beliefs we show that we respect our partner. If conflict arises and we cannot agree, we should simply agree to disagree and continue to talk with respect. Without mutual respect, it is impossible to create loving relationships.

Moral Responsibility: You are always morally responsible to those with whom you have relationships.

We live in a society that elevates self-fulfillment above anything else. We seek self-fulfillment at any cost, even at the cost of others. Regardless of how often we have heard that we are not responsible for our partner’s happiness, we are still responsible for his or her well-being. Love is a moral responsibility to another person. We blame our partners if things do not work out without looking in the mirror to see our own flaws. Yet, everything we think, say or do affects those we love.

In our quest for better relationships, we must make our relationship a priority. We must focus on our relationship not elsewhere.

Authenticity: True love only happens when you are real

Have you ever found yourself laughing simply because everyone else did? Agreed with your partner’s opinion even though you didn’t share it or said: “I love you” when you didn’t mean it. Did you ever do something inconsistent with your true self just to please someone or to get what you wanted? Of course we all have. We have lost the bravery to be real!

For many there is quite a gap between the inside and the person they present to the world.To be validated we often compromise who we are.

Conditioned by our environment we have become products of the culture we live in. No matter how good we are at playing roles eventually our truth emerges. Being fit to love means being real. When we are authentic our relationships become real and we never have to doubt them.

Regardless of the state of our relationships or how unsuccessfully we have tried to find love we have the power to radically change today. Mutual respect, moral responsibility and authenticity are key to exceptional relationships. People in exceptional relationships are fit to love and in the process they reap some profound rewards .

so now ask the question are u fit for love………….if u r thn all the best!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ur jyotsna

Friday, November 04, 2005

success..........means.........

Success varies from person to person and can be defined in many terms, in many ways and
in many styles. But the one thing is certain it can always be associated with contentment.

Contentment is the Soul of success. Always set some small goals and put your
optimum effort for that. Be clear about targets and the end result will be Success. I am not
saying you'll achieve your goal I will say you'll succeed. In every battle, every game there is
only winner but the feeling that I did put my maximum effort is near to success. Hard fought
war is never lost even if you don't achieve what you were striving for.

I can tell you one thing that theory of success is really complex but can be resolved in
seconds if you have sense of contentment and recognition of efforts in your mind.
You can easily quantify what you achieve is success for or not.

Another Important thing is People, our surroundings, we normally consider people
around us as judges of success or failure but who can guess what was your mindset
while trying for anything. Results often mislead to misconception.

People can say sachin scored 100 runs so he is successful but For sachin it
can be only matter of some average performance and he can consider it as the success
for his midfielders.

So Go for your own mental satisfaction but don't be Negative in terms of Goal setting.
Success is yours and you are successful!!!!!!!!!!

keep smiling and go ahead!!!!!!!ur jo........

Wednesday, October 19, 2005

The Strength of a Silent Mind


One of the most powerful forces in the universe available to human beings is also one of the least understood and appreciated. This powerful force is silence. The secret strength found in silence is as practical in daily life as is its true character life-changing.

If we want that stillness, that silent strength, a peace that passes all understanding, we must go within. We must go quiet.


wil continue in next post...........
jyotsna

Tuesday, September 20, 2005

"beware of friends"!!!!!!!!!

Hai friends after taking a lot of time i am back with my new post!!!

And during this time i analysed certain class of friends and i wonder how these so called friends create problems to their friends.

Are they called as friends????

I guess the answer is "no".i think u all will agree with me!!

A friend is one who walks in, when rest of the world goes out!!! rite!

what is the hell when the one who is next to u called friend creates problems and makes u feel embrased???

so ARE these people should be called as friends who are degrading the value of friendship.

so "BEWARE OF FRIENDS"!!!!

chance makes parents but choice makes friends!

so choose your friends with atmost care because world is empty without friends.

Remember................

One Stone is Enough to Break a Glass…… One Sentence is Enough to Break a Heart……One Second is Enough to Fall in Love……and One Misunderstanding is Sufficient to Break Friendship.

Also broken friendship can be soldered but cannot be sound.

My sincere request to all these so called friends is to understand the value of friendship and realize that what matters at the end of the day is how many "true friends" are their with u to care for u when u r in bad times............

Everyone will be around u when u r happy. and all these people come with u to enjoy all those wonderful moments..........but realize that these people will never come to u when u r down............

And And And........ it is only ur TRUE FRIEND walks with u making u feel comfortable and will pull up from your bad times.......
so its important to have friends my dear friends....................

"It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice"

Friday, September 09, 2005

let the flames of love keep burning!!!!!!

THE FLAMES OF LOVE

The ultimate form of friendship is love. Love is what moves us all. It is what we as humans search for all our lives. Love is selfless, precious and comes around when we least expect it. This page is to acknowledge my friends. I want you all to know that I love you all, I respect you!!!!!

Suppose you have everything; a good job, good health, good reputation, good relationships and lot of money to spend. But still there is something missing from your life. Guess what? The LOVE. It is not something which you should ignore. Life without love is just like body without soul.

Love gives meaning to life as without love life is meaningless. Lucky is the person who gets love and keeps the flames of love burning for ever. It is not a matter of days or months. Love is for life and life is for love.

Short term love encounters are not helpful at all. Be sincere with your body and soul. Indulge in serious life long loving relationship and live a healthy, happy and joyful life.

It is easy to fell in love but difficult to keep the flames of love burning. Before indulging in serious long term love relationships be sure that the person you love is also sincere with you. A selfish person can make your life miserable. If this is the case with you then try to get rid of that person as soon as possible.

Most people do not give importance to their love life as they give importance to their professional life. In most cases, people sacrifice their love life at the cost of their profession. This is a bad choice which ruins the whole life. A sensible balance between the two is necessary in order to enjoy life in its entirety. Do not deprive yourself of the love you need.


People part their ways after living together for years and years. Though this looks strange but is the obvious result of ignoring the genuine complaints and grievances of the other. Sometimes a sincere apology, gentle touch is enough to put your love life on track. However, when deep differences develop between the two then professional consultation is necessary. Do everything to bring back love to your life, if it is lost.

In order to make the journey of life more exciting and enjoyable, you need a loving and caring person with whom you can share your values, dreams, fantasies, joys and jokes. In difficult times of anxiety, sorrow, distress or loss of near and dear ones this person should stand firm besides you and console you in every possible manner.


Love your life and love the person who is in your life. Keep the flames of love burning to live a great, great love life!!!!

Tuesday, September 06, 2005

FRIENDS R A TREASURE...........RITE????/

plz post ur comments to jyotsna_b2002@yahoo.co.in

Friends !!!!!!!!what do u expect from ur frnds?????

we expect something from our frnds!!!!!!!!!right???

so pause and remember that the "same is expected from u by your friends in return!!!"


friends whts important is not getting a good friend.........
but becoming a good friend to others!!!!!! Do u agree???

Welcome friends into your life bcoz....................


A FRIEND IS A TREASURE......

A friend is someone we turn to
When our spirits need a lift,
A friend is someone we treasure
For our friendship is a gift,
A friend is someone who fills our lives
With beauty, joy, and grace
And makes the world we live in
A better and happier place.


................even though friends are part of life they play a significant role in moulding our life.
They turn failures into successes, and they bring in a lot of oppurtunities into our lives .....

In short they bring in everthing into our lives which make our life colourful and brighter
than the one before .

And what else do we need to lead a wonderful life.........

friends!!!!!!

friends are priceless and rare,
so keep them with extreme care!!!!

Hope all of will have more friends
who brings in more beautiful moments into your life!!!!!!!!!


ALL THE BEST!!!!

JYOTSNA........

Thursday, September 01, 2005

Friends r a gift to all……………

Friends I think the topic which we never get bored is friends and frindship,and they r the priceless gifts of god to everyone of us.Todays post has some poems on friendship and friends ………….

FRIENDS Always Remember that……

When you need a shoulder to cry on,
Remember that I have a warm embrace,
Ready to offer comfort.

When you think I'm being too tough,
Remember that which does not kill you
Makes you stronger.

When you need a friend to listen,
Remember that I am here for you,
Always.

When you doubt me,
Remember that I once knelt at your feet,
Washing them in service to you.

When you lose faith in yourself,
Remember that I never did,
Nor ever will.

Friends……

Friend: that one special person
who makes life a bit
easier by just being
there and listening to your
problems and difficulties.

Friendship: a special bond
between two people.
A bond that time
cannot break. It is strong
like a chain, with linking
hearts.


Friends r a gift to all……………

There are days when
bubbling from us comes
the innocent child within,
who giggles at the little things
and wears a silly grin.

There are days when
melancholy comes to
visit for a while;
the mind feels tired, the body weak;
we have no strength to smile.

There are days when
joy abundant
grabs a hold of you and me;
wraps us up in all it's splendor,
lifts us up and sets us free.

There are days when
sorrow wraps us
in its cloak of grief and fear,
'till our hearts ache to the breaking,
'till our eyes can't shed a tear.

There are days when
love bestows us
with its wonderment and light;
with its beauty and its mystery,
its power and its might.

And there are days when
life rewards us
and seems to make amends
by granting us a marvelous gift,
the precious gift of Friends.




UR A Gift To ME…I wanted u to know thoughts that r in my mind………

I have sat here and pondered the many horizons
of the emotions that drift through my heart
and I recollect the tears, the laughter,
the heartache and the glory.
And I wonder how it was,
that I made the journey into today.

Then you stray into my thoughts,
and I recall how many times you have held my hand
and guided me through the darkness
and showed me the light.
Then I think of the laughter you gave to me,
the smiles you brought to my eyes,
and the warmth you poured into my heart.

For those many gifts you have offered me,
I feel compelled to give something in return.
But what gift is worthy of such a friend as you?
Only the finest delights are suitable
for such a friend as you.
But I am not wealthy in a monetary fashion,
and haven’t the means to give such a wondrous gift.

So I sit asking myself what I have to offer,
and just what gift is worthy.
So I give to you something special to me.
Not a material object to be looked at or used,
but rather a place where one can rest easy
and drift into serenity.

Close your eyes if you will and take your thoughts to a place
where light dances across clear blue lakes
and enchanting evergreens offer shelter
and blue skies bring the warmth of the sun.
Where a song is whispered to you from the doves high above,
and the scents of the flowers ease your mind.
Here in this special place
you have wings to fly
and float on warm gentle breezes.
And you can see a vast array of colors burning
into the distance.
Here you are at one with the angels,
and you can be at peace in your heart.

For if you can see my special place,
it is yours to call home and you can always close your eyes
and return again.
So please take my humble offering,
and go there often, knowing that in my heart
I am with you in a place in my mind.
This is my gift for you,
as you are
my special friend.

Friends ………we all go through when we feel alone in the world and no one seems to understand our pain. No one that is, until you realize that there is a special person in the world called your friend and they can make it all better. This is the greatest gift.

My Friends………

We all need someone
To talk to in our life,
A friend to whom we run
In times of stress or strife

A friend who's always there
Throughout the years,
A friend we know will care
And take away our fears.

A friend who's always near,
Waiting for our call,
To wipe away our tears,
And lift us when we fall.

A loving friend indeed,
On whom we can depend
To fulfill our every need -
Thank you, precious friend.

jyotsna
jyotsna_b2002@yahoo.co.in

Wednesday, August 31, 2005

Find Freedom From Happiness!!

Unhappiness persists because we resist!!

Dwelling on any disturbance within you-with the idae that the more time u spend thinking about it,the less troublesome it will becom-- is like trying to knock ants off ur picnic table by throwing sugar at them.

Find Freedom From Happiness!!

when we think about any painful event be it three minutes or thirty years old,we look at nothing more than a shadow of what once was --something that is no more!

The catch here is that these same thoughts--these shadows of experiences gone by--seem to have a life of their own ,and in a way thet do,for each carriers with it a full complementary set of emotional baggage--the still smoldering stuff of what e went through the first time the event transpired.to see the truth of this inner dynamic is the first step we must take to learn to walk away from the useless suffering that wrecks our lives,a step that brings us to the essential point of study.

whatever the cause,on any given day when lifes wheel of fortune takes a bad turn or one's memories go back around to relive some double zero day,the pain we feel coursing through us is real in itself,but the actual cause of suffering is a" lie".


Can this be?let's see.one simple question answers this misteryif we will dare answer it as honestly as we know how : if it werent for something with in us wanting to revisit these painful old images--to recall their familiar old pangs --then would we go where this torment is?surely the answer is no!which brings us the next important question :what is it in our present nature that wants ti revisit these shadowy scenes and releive the suffering stored away in them??

we can find answer to this question when we look at how we habitually react to any form of pssychological pain that pops into our awareness.we always try to make the pain go away by looking for the reason it appeared in the first place.But as we are about to discover ,our usual behaviour here is all a part of our unconcious suffering.

Heres why:we r convinced that if we wish to escape our painful state we must some how find a way to resolve it.this seems to leave us no choice other than to revisit again and again the same unhappy images taht give rise to our painin the first place!talk about a vicious circle!this is not unlike getting frightened by a scary scene ina horror movie and then closing our eyes in the hope of escaping the fear we feel for what we have just seen.The more we resist this or any negative image ,the more definitevely it presses itself into our minds eye.

But we now know that this pain --along with those unconcious parts of ourselves that have always jumped to answer it--is little more than an echo of a time long gone.As such, we also know how to answer these recurring aches with the only response powerful enough to dissolve them completely.we meet them with our understanding that thy no longer have the power to torment us as thay have always done.

we r now ready for the next step to know how to relese all that used to make us scared or sad.our studied have spiritually prepared us for this next important step.when we feel some jknod of dark ness coming over us,we must muster the courage to conciously doubt the reality of this condition,even though our feelings r powerfully trying to convince us that what we feel is true.And we can do this now.

we have seen for ourself that we no longer have to believe in "ghosts", let alone the clanking of the chains!Thanks to higher understanding that we know better .to help summarize this ,here is a short poem entitled "ten words with power to help u walk away from useless suffering"

THE "FEEL " IS REAL
BUT THE "WHY" IS A LIE !

Dare to apply its wisdom to any moment when some negative state tries to brew up a storm in u, and watch how u make even the most stubbon feelings disappear!

Friday, August 26, 2005

go ahead with ur decision friends............

Friends I want all of u to read the entire post and just reading is not important,think of it and make a good decision which brings u success in life…….


Don’t break into a sprint. And, dont crawl either. Consider the pros and cons and lend an ear to expert opinions. But don't let the decision making process go on and on and on..........

Here is a real life incident that tells about the dangers of hasty decisions under the influence of fright or anger. A woman came home to find her husband in the kitchen, shaking frantically with what looked like a wire running from his waist towards the electric kettle.

Intending to jolt him a way from the deadly current, she whacked him with a handy plank of wood, breaking his arm. Until that moment he had been happily listening to his Walkman.

FOUR STEPS:

Decision means choosing between various options. Normally students are guided by their parents and influenced by their friends regarding their career and future. Here r four basic steps to make a wise decision.

1.think of a many alternatives as possible. Never stick on to the first one that occurred to ur mind and try to strengthen it. When u ask a person for an advice or to take a decision on ur behalf, think: does he know as much about the problem as I do?

2.never relay on ‘one’ expert opinion. They may be biased or not scientifically correct. Search for more information with other professionals, books, online services and newspapers. Visualise the outcome of each alternative.

3.Consider whether it is for u or someone else. If ur decision is to affect others take into consideration their values also.

4.consider ur capabilities. Never be too optimistic or pessimistic. Access the pros and cons and what u r loosing or gaining by ur decision.

Many a times u r very happy about a decision but not comfortable with its possible outcome. It is like aiming for IIT without basic foundation. On the other hand sometimes u may dislike a decision but excited about the outcome. This includes selling of ancestral property. If u feel u can live with both the decision as well as the possible outcome, this is the path u should follow.

Being unable to take a decision is called “decidiphobia.” It is more harmful than a hasty decision. Review constantly, whether u r going in right direction and getting expected results. If not, change the goal. Many students and their parents undergo complexity in this juncture, unable to change their fixed targets. Ask ur frnd to count down and tell u how many paragraphs this article has. After his reply, ask him whts the title of article. He cannot tell u. Same way when u call 4 an advice, the expert would tell u the solutions from his knowledge and experience. Take suggestions but final decision is urs.

On the other hand leave expectations when listening to a good advice and be open. Sometimes the main cause of a problem rests somewhere else. For a student who feels that physics is a tough, the reason may be his poor standard in elementary mathematics.

Friends at last I want to conclude by saying

LIFE IS A RARE CHANCE
WITH PLENTY OF PLANS
IF POSITIVE U WIN
IF NEGATIVE U LOOSE.

Wednesday, August 24, 2005

hai...............have a look

Friends plz mail me ur comments or anything u want to share with me.
My mail address……….Jyotsna_b2002@yahoo.co.in


Have a look of this friends and hope u will agree with me………..

LIFE ENDS WHEN U STOP BREATHING
LOVE ENDS WHEN U STOP CARING
FRIENDSHIP ENDS WHEN U STOP SAILING
HOPE ENDS WHEN U STOP BELIEVING…………


The higher u dream the higher u should aspire,
The higher u aspire,the higher u should go.
The higher u go,the higher u achieve,
The higher u achieve,the higher u should dream.


Friends I am really very happy knowing that my blog is being visited by so many of u and I thank all of u so much for that.

I am really exited to know that so many of u r really showing intrest to read my articles…..and my conversation with a one of my friend sujeet revealed this….

Lets have a look of our conversation in which I am quite impressed with some of the points spoken by him after reading my article…Friends read our conversation I promise it will not bore u and u will find some intresting points coming out of that…………………

He said……………..well i can tell u one thing from this,
hope the people who read this ..just don read it but understand n implement it.

Then I asked him do u agree with me about my article friends and friendship…..
absolutely ….he said and continued……

Friends can do anything, anytime ,anywhere.And we shoud do too.Thats the reason i told u, that this life is very small for fightin n quarrelin.……..

people shud realize, josh (its me)!

understand this about frndship. u make a friend when u like him/her.……or urr frequencies match, u r tryin to find urselves in him/her,a mirror. so u r tryin to look at a mirror image of urs. rite!
well ...i think we shud b able to accept hir/her qualities in to u
we shud allow things into us


AND HE SAID……………….

let us consider our brain as a cube, so it has 6 sides.we r tryin to attach them by bringin it near.
so wat happens is .……………….only one side will b in full contact, the rest five will not.

thats the reason i tell that we shud accept him /her the way he/she is.
and that is possible in friendship. A new dimension to friendship. Be ready to let things in to u.And then u get to taste the spice of life. how u tackle them.

people get dejected for small things, they shud try n realise the valuye of life.
shudnt worry bout small failures.

this bout frndship!!!!!!

……………………………….and plz think of this friends!!!!!!!!!!!

Saturday, August 20, 2005

tortise/hare story...................

Friends today I will narrate u a story that will bring some points into light……..so follow them and hope u will implement them which gives u success………….

lessons........... from a twist in the tortoise / hare story many folds and see what is the final moral.

Once upon a time a tortoise and a hare had an argument about who was faster. They decided to settle the argument with a race.

They agreed on a route and started off the race. The hare shot ahead and ran briskly for some time.

Then seeing that he was far ahead of the tortoise, he thought he'd sit under a tree for some time and relax before continuing the race. He sat under the tree and soon fell asleep. The tortoise plodding on overtook him and soon finished the race, emerging as the undisputed champ.

-The hare woke up and realised that he'd lost the race. The moral of the story is that slow and steady wins the race. This is the version of the story that we've all grown up with. But then recently, someone told me a more interesting version of this story.

It continues... The hare was disappointed at losing and did some soul-searching. He realised that he'd lost the race only because he had been overconfident, careless and lax. If he had not taken things for granted, there's no way the tortoise could have beaten him. So he challenged the tortoise to another race. The tortoise agreed.

This time, the hare went all out and ran without stopping from start to finish. He won by several miles. The moral of the story? Fast and consistent will always beat the slow and steady.

If you have two people in your organisation, one slow, methodical and reliable, and the other fast and still reliable at what he does, the fast and reliable chap will consistently climb the organisational ladder faster than the slow, methodical chap. It's good to be slow and steady; but it's better to be fast and reliable.

But the story doesn't end here...

The tortoise did some thinking this time, and realised that there's no way he can beat the hare in a race the way it was currently formatted. He thought for a while, and then challenged the hare to another race, but on a slightly different route.

The hare agreed. They started off. In keeping with his self-made commitment to be consistently fast, the hare took off and ran at top speed until he came to a broad river. The finishing line was a couple of kilometres on the other side of the river.

The hare sat there wondering what to do. In the meantime the tortoise trundled along, got into the river, swam to the opposite bank, continued walking and finished the race. The moral of the story?

First identify your core competency and then change the playing field to suit your core competency. In an organisation, if you are a good speaker, make sure you create opprtunities to give presentations that enable the senior management to notice you.

If your strength is analysis, make sure you do some sort of research, make a report and send it upstairs. Working to your strengths will not only get you noticed, but will also create opportunities for growth and advancement.

The story still hasn't ended....

The hare and the tortoise, by this time, had become pretty good friends and they did some thinking together. Both realised that the last race could have been run much better. So they decided to do the last race again, but to run as a team this time.

They started off, and this time the hare carried the tortoise till the riverbank. There, the tortoise took over and swam across with the hare on his back. On the opposite bank, the hare again carried the tortoise and they reached the finishing line together.

They both felt a greater sense of satisfaction than they'd felt earlier. The moral of the story? It's good to be individually brilliant and to have strong core competencies; but unless you're able to work in a team and harness each other's core competencies, you'll always perform below par because there will always be situations at which you'll do poorly and someone else does well.

Teamwork is mainly about situational leadership, letting the person with the relevant core competency for a situation takes leadership.

There are more lessons to be learnt from this story...

Note that neither the hare nor the tortoise gave up after failures. The hare decided to work harder and put in more effort after his failure. The tortoise changed his strategy because he was already working as hard as he could.

In life, when faced with failure, sometimes it is appropriate to work harder and put in more effort. Sometimes it is appropriate to change strategy and try something different.
And sometimes it is appropriate to do both.

The hare and the tortoise also learnt another vital lesson. When we stop competing against a rival and instead start competing against the situation, we perform far better.

When Roberto Goizueta took over as CEO of Coca-Cola in the 1980s, he was faced with intense competition from Pepsi that was eating into Coke's growth. His executives were Pepsi-focussed and intent on increasing market share 0.1 per cent a time. Goizueta decided to stop competing against Pepsi and instead compete against the situation of 0.1 per cent growth. He asked his executives what was the average fluid intake of an American per day? The answer was 14 ounces.

What was Coke's share of that? Two ounces. Goizueta said Coke needed a larger share of that market. The competition wasn't Pepsi. It was the water, tea, coffee, milk and fruit juices that went into the remaining 12 ounces.

The public should reach for a Coke whenever they felt like drinking something. To this end, Coke put up vending machines at every street corner. Sales took a quantum jump and Pepsi has never quite caught up since. To sum up, the story of the hare and tortoise teaches us many things.

Chief among them are

- fast and consistent will always beat slow and steady;

- work to your competencies;

- pooling resources and working as a team will always beat individual performers

- never give up when faced with failure;

and finally,

- compete against the situation - not against a rival